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took a stand
August 2, 2009
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Yesterday was a good day. I went exercising with my mother, took a nap, and then went to have dinner with friends. I did not let anyone make me feel guilty for doing things that I wanted to do. My husband tried very hard to make me feel guilty. Telling me that we only saw each other for two hours this entire week. I just told him I was doing what I wanted to do and was hanging out with people that made me feel good not bad. He was not happy and wanted to know why he couldn't go with me. Honestly I wanted to have a good time so I did not ask him to come with me. It was great to hang out and just put things out of my mind for a little while. That was a big step for me. I am paying for it now sort of. He has called several times to make me feel bad but I did as Atalose said and just stopped taking his calls.

I am on my way to church and then to Alanon today at 5.

August 2, 2009
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Agv,

Good for you!!! I am glad you did what you wanted to do and allowed guilt to take a back seat. And the more you continue to do that the better you will feel. Keeping busy especially with things you want to do is also key. I think for so long so many of us put our lives, our wants and needs on hold for them and when we finally do take a stand its empowering.

Turning that phone off can be like taking well needed medication!!!!! Again, good for you I am so proud of you because you are doing for you now……

(((agv)))

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~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

August 2, 2009
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Atalose,

Thanks for your support. I did feel good to just do what made me happy not what made someone else happy.

I am seeing more situations where I can and am standing up for myself. I am learning to say NO. You would think that saying no is hard but it really really is. I am doing what is best for me. Man it feels good. I hope I can keep this up.

I was going to go to an alanon meeting tonight but my sitter couldn't come. hopefully I will make it next week.

AGV

August 2, 2009
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Agv,

If you want it bad enough you will keep it up and more!!!!! Have you looked into al-anon on line? Or a site for spouses of alcoholics?

Atalose

~~Hope has a place, but not above reality~~

August 2, 2009
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Atalose,

August 2, 2009
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atalose

I did not know there were on line classes. That would be perfect for me. I will check into that. Thanks for the suggestion. I do want it bad which is why I am on this mission.

AGV

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