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Too soon or not too soon? That is the question
February 16, 2001
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Can anyone tell me what's going on? Just recently (about 4 months ago), I broke up with my girlfriend of two four. I was crushed because I loved her more than anything. But she messed it up by disrespecting and mistreating me. About two months ago, I began dating a lady that I work with. At first it was just a friendship, then an intimate friendship, now it's going even further. I am beginning to fall in love! But, in my mind is that same fear that I may see the past process repeat itself. So, I've been reluctant to let it go to the next level. I have gone thru 6 break ups in the past year. How do I know how soon is to fall in love? What can I do to get rid of my "groundless fear?" If there

February 16, 2001
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A correction to the thread. I was in a hurry when I wrote it. 4 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and I have had 6 break ups in the last 4 years.

February 16, 2001
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Can you control how fast you fall in love? I know I can't. I can control what I do with that emotion.

I'm not sure what you mean't by "groundless fear". Please explain that for me and I might have a suggestion for you!

February 16, 2001
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Hi childhoodamnesia,

By groundless fear, I mean the fear that the relationship may turn out like the others. I know it seems silly, but I just can't take anymore break ups.

February 17, 2001
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Go slow, love takes time, it is lust you feel, look at values, character, actions and her friends. Get to know the person, not the rush of feelings that you have. It takes time to know who to give your heart to, and if you hold back longer, you will have a better idea. There are no guarentees, only good planning. Life is a risk, and when you stop taking them what do you have, but there are wise risks, like studying the stock before you buy it. 20 relationships break up out of the blue. So just move slow and easy learn before you love.

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