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Too deep to fathom...
December 27, 2013
7:34 pm
Old Gypsy Soul
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I have trouble understanding why I hesitate to leave a relationship that I find unfulfilling. Even while deciding which example to use to express my dismay, I have to wonder what validation I'm hoping to find…. What sort of answer I'm looking for. I guess I wonder what keeps us from shutting doors that we suspect aren't leading to what we are looking for in the first place?

December 28, 2013
6:06 am
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Well, thanks for sharing & it's not really so deep at all.  Being in a relationship good or bad is a comfort for humans.  Some suffer from severe separation anxiety & might also suffer from anxiety of being alone.  It's not really necessary to express your dismay or gain any kind of validation from the other person.  It is necessary that you sit down and write down your own reasons for finding the relationship unfulfilling & validating yourself to yourself.  After you have done that and you are certain you want to move forward and out, simply state your decision in a gentle way to your current partner.  No explanation is required.  If they ask why?  Tell them that you are not being fulfilled as a human being & that you want a chance to shut this door and open a new one.

If children are involved, continue to be in their lives as much as possible.


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