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To trust or not to trust?
February 12, 2000
3:51 pm
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I have been diagnosed as clinically depressed and have been put on medication. I have only been on a couple of weeks so I am still hoping that it will begin to help soon. There is one person at work who has helped me in the past but, due to my illness, I can act very irrational and hurtful. I know that I push him too far but he always comes back for more to help me. Recently though, things have become strained and he feels that I am too 'demanding' of his time. He is the only one that I can really talk to and open up to, but I am worried that I may be losing that. Have I trusted this person too much? People tell me that he is effectively saying 'back off, I don't want to know' but I like to think that I know him better and can still trust him to help. I suppose what I am saying is that I am too dependant on him and don't know what to do to feel strong enough to not think that he is the only one (even though he is really). I see him as a mate, boss and counsellor roled into one. Has anyone got any suggestions?

February 12, 2000
9:53 pm
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first of all, unfortunately relationships made at the workplace is a sticky topic. regardless of whether this person has been reliable or not, you might want to consider seeking out another person for advice/help. you wouldn't want to jeopardize anything at work.
the other thing is that you should trust your feeling on this. if you feel the slightest bit uncomfortable with a situation, there is a reason that you have that reaction. trust yourself.
there are so many alternative sources out there for advice and help.. you are NOT alone
good luck

February 19, 2000
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I think Skywise has some good advice there - if your gut feeling is that this guy feels uncomfortable then perhaps you should trust this. The good thing is that you ARE able to pick up on his feelings - you are able to be sensitive to this. But relationships built at work are generally established within well-defined boundaries - ultimately one is there to do a job. This person obviously cares about your welfare, but perhaps feels a little bit overwhelmed with the support you perhaps need right now. I think it's great that you are able to carry on working whilst going through what you are. Perhaps if you sought your counselling from another source, you could enjoy your working partnership and friendship better??? Good luck!

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