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To: Pastpatternscreepingup
September 23, 2008
3:37 pm
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Hi. Thank you for the compliment. I love your nick name. My life went something like this. My parents set standards for me, and I made good choices when I was younger. Not the least bit co-dependent. It wasnt until I got older that I decided to do things different and started making really bad choices when it came to men. Now I am going back wards. Moving back to the town I grew up in and making the choices that I used to make which was to be active and go out and have fun.

What is going on in your life?

September 25, 2008
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My life in a nutshell..
I was always the responsible one in my family - living up to everyone's expectations. I've always been extremely shy due to my poor self esteem. So in school, I didn't date much. During my twenties, I became a workaholic and so the only men I met were at work. Some were single, and others weren't. Spent way too long in relationships going nowhere. Usually, it all started with innocent flirting at work, following by steamy e-mails, and then progressed from there.

Fast forward to age 37 now older and wiser (I hope). I have a job where I work regionally with a lot of travel. That works out great for me with my past history of dating men at work. Even though I travel a lot, I found myself with more free time than ever. I got involved with a non-profit group and met my current boyfriend at a fundraiser for them. We've been together 4-1/2 years and he is terrific. Looking back at the jerks and idiots, I realize how very lucky I am.

Why the nickname - I recently had an e-mail from a former co-worker who is now divorced. It started with the "hey, how are you" e-mails and quickly started into flirtations (which is why I can totally identify with the girl and her text messages). I saw his myspace page and he is still cute. But his e-mails ask "when are we going to get together". I have to keep answering them "when hell freezes over". You know the old saying "If you play with fire, you're going to get burned"? Well, I would end up burning the whole house down. So why take that risk?

September 26, 2008
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Pastpatterns- Sounds like you are going great. I think the way you met your current BF is perfect. In a social setting in a situation where you both had something in common.

Your attitude towards your X sounds appropriate. Even though you are saying "NO!" sounds like he might be tugging at your heart strings a wee bit. It does lift the spirits and raises the self esteem.

The fact that you asked the question "why take the risk?"
tells me you have been thinking about this guy.

Your right if you did get together with him he would be right back in business. Since he is getting a divorce I am sure that you know the reason.

What happened with you and him in the past?

I am still waiting for the day when I can say "looking back on all the jerks and idiots.....".

September 30, 2008
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Oh you're good - catching that 'why take the risk'. I have been thinking about him. I wouldn't say he is tugging at my heart strings - as I wasn't in love with him. It was a fun, flirty fling. And you're so right - it's raised my self esteem. But then I think about my bf - he's caring, sensitive, sweet, passionate, but most of all trustworthy! I need to just change my cell number & e-mail address and have no way for him to contact me.

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