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April 27, 2000
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Hi, I have survived some very traumatic ordeals in the last 3 years and have a hard time dealing with them. I know there is lots of stress in my life. I am now getting to where I just cry all the time. I feel like my family doesn't care enough and that I am overall just pretty useless.

I went thru a horrid legal battle with a false accusation, and although I was Proven innocent beyond a shadow of a doubt, for 2 years I was worried about my life and the bad things that were happening. Then after everything that had been going on with that, I had a car wreck & broke my back in 7 places. It is healing, but just not as well as I would like. My husband is not very supportive of everything and it makes me sad. His job comes before me. Should this upset me? I am not sure. Then to top it all off, my stepchild hates me. I feel as if I am coming between my husband and his child as well as his family. His x hates me and although she divorced him due to her finding another man, she now wants to reconciliate. They were divorced over 1 year before we even met. she lies to my Mother in Law and others. She calls and tries to lead me to believe that my husband is responding to her. I don't believe it at all. But it still hurts me because of the rest of the family.

I am not sure where to turn.

April 27, 2000
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Turn to a counselor of some type. Your pastor, a therpaist etc.
You have plenty of reasons to be sad..but write them down and check off the ones you have control over. (Those will be the ones that directly relate to you.)

Then scratch out the ones you have absoulutly no control over.

Your step child hates you? Can you control that? Have you done things to cause this hatred or is it really because mom and dad split up even if it wasn't your fault. Can't control it. the step child will have to deal with it. You just be as polite as you can and keep out of the line of fire.

Ex trying to get "her man" back? Can you control her? NO. Can you control your husband. NO but you can control your reaction to her ignorance and your reaction to your husbands seeming indifference. Perhaps he does not know how to deal with your injuries. He may be at a disadvantage. TELL HIM WHAT YOU WANT AND NEED... maybe two or three times at the most. If he doesn't get he might never "get it"

Your back isn't healing like you want. Hmmmmm...negetive thinking may be playing a part. Laughter helps healing..get a joke book and make your self laugh three times a day. Dr Norman Cousins wrote about the power of laughter in healing in his book about his cancer. Talk to your dr. and your physical therapist. Many of overcome the limits that drs say they can reach after horrible accidents. You could to.

Family doens't care enough? Can you change them? If you can't don't try. Greive over it and move on.

Feeling useless? What are you ABLE to do at this time? Can you walk? are you in a brace? Are you in traction? Can you move your hands? Send cards and letters to those worse off than you...there are a lot of them out there. Call an old folks home and ask if you send cards will they share them with the elders who have noone visiting them.

Do what you can do and stop worrying about what you can't. Write a journal. Many folks find it really helps alot.

The power of positive thinking is not a myth. It lies at your fingertips. Your life is your own to make as full or as empty as you like.

Maybe the cards have beenstacked against you for awhile but you can always reshuffle the deck. and if you get low cards...reshuffle.

Make your life what you want it to be..
Start today.

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

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