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To LCV From Zinnie
February 16, 2004
4:23 pm
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Hi LCV,

You have not posted for a while, and I was just checking to be sure you are safe and O.K.

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Zinnie

February 17, 2004
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Hi Zinnie....

I am fine..thank you for checking. You are not going to believe this...I filed for divorce today. He will be served on Feb. 26. I am moving some stuff out of the house tomorrow and will stay with my dad for the time being. I want to keep the house, so hopefully he will make plans to leave soon. I am an emotional bundle of nerves and have cried for half the day, but I feel strong in between. I want this all to be over. I am so scared...scared to be alone, scared to date, scared to hurt him...but I did it and I keep hoping that happiness will be mine just around the corner....This site and going to my dv classes have helped me make this decision and to become educated about what kind of relationship I was in. Thank you so much for sharing and caring and listening...it really DOES make a DIFFERENCE

February 17, 2004
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Hi LCV,

Thanks for replying. I was beginning to worry about you because you had not posted anything for a few days.

I know this is hard on you. A divorce is never easy. But, think about how much harder it would have been years from now.

I'm glad that you are staying with your Dad. Will he be able to keep you safe?

I'm going to warn you right now. When he is served, he will have one of two reactions, but both will more than likely culminate in attempted violence. So please, please... KEEP YOURSELF SAFE! And... please post a quick note on here so I will know you are safe. O.K.?

Even after he is served with these papers, keep going to you domestic abuse classes. It will help to give you some insight as to why you chose him, and why you stayed. You might be amazed at how much you will learn.

Have you been following the "Abuse" thread? If not, please go read the latest. My daughter had started to see a man right before Christmas that she met there in the rehab hospital. He was hit by a drunk driver and suffered from a broken back, which is why he was there. Anyway, get this... he is a Trauma Dr. - so he is really deeply understanding of where Lisa is at. But, they had such a nice Valentine's Day. I would like you to read it, just to see that there is hope out there.

You are starting a new chapter of your life. I'm sorry it came to this, as I have said many times on this site alone, I'm not a big advocate of divorce. I really think too many people leave their marriages in search of the greener pasture. But, when there is abuse... no... get out.

Be well, and keep safe.

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Zinnie

February 18, 2004
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Thank you Zinnie.

I have been reading the abuse thread and I was so happy to hear about Lisa and her beau.

I will be safe at my Dad's, I think I will be fine. I will continue with the classes as well. They bring me alot of strength.

I will keep in touch....

February 18, 2004
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LCV,

Please to... even if it's only to say "Hey Zin... doing O.K. gotta run"

I just want to know you are safe O.K.?

Yes, Lisa is doing well. This man is a sweetheart he really is.

Good luck and be safe.

Love,

Z.

February 21, 2004
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Still hanging in there. It is an emotional roller coaster. We talk (my husband and I) and we cry, but I am ok. He feels that what I have done is too drastic because he is seeking help, but I told him that I am protecting myself. I hope he does change...but if not I will be on my path to a better life and relationship.

I hope you are feeling well today....

LCV

February 22, 2004
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Hi LCV,

What has your counselor and DV classes had to say about how he is acting?

Just curious.

I hope you are well today also.

Z.

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