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tired of insecuity
October 6, 2007
9:41 am
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C has unexplained pains anywhere and everywhere. he call me from the emerfgency room about twice a year. It used to be chest pains until he found out that they would hospitalize him for 24 hours. Now it's pains in his stomach, headaches, etc etc. i think he wants sympathy more than anything. the doctors this last time found a hiatal hernia which isn't supposed to be painful.

I give him sympathy but since he's been having problems since the day we married its'getting a little wearisome.
even at our square dance club they are getting tired of asking how he is and being sympathetic. We been going for five years now and when they ask how are you? he give a list of symtoms.

October 8, 2007
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It's tiresome when someone has a need that can't be satisfied. T was a bottomless pit. And I told him so. It seemed like the more I stroked him with re-assurances that I loved him and did not have a secret lover, the more needy he got. Sometimes I felt like I was throwing myself into the bottomless pit. Bye Self!

I don't know what made him stop. I don't think it was anything I did, because I tried everything. (Codependent) He stopped after he had his psychotic break. Now he has occasional flitters of insecurity that are manageable, like mine. "Do you still love me?" just once, I can handle.

So C does not want to be admitted to the hospital? He wants to be sent home? So he wants the attention from you. Do you feel like that feeds your codependency? I think you'll need support, reminding you that you didn't cause C's problem and you can't fix it. Because it's his nature to think that you can fix it. You can love him, but you can't fix his problem.

My camping trip was awesome. The hike was a rock scramble up a mountain. Toward the end we traveled through a very deep crevice and climbed a wooden ladder out of it. At the top of the mountain was a tower. We could see for miles around. The leaves on the trees were just beginning to turn. It was an amazing experience. Saturday night we had dinner in a college town nearby. The people were an exceptionally considerate and kind group. We talked around the campfire until late at night. The next day, some people went on another hike, but T and I hung out at the campsite. T made bacon and eggs on the fire and we just enjoyed the mountain air and the time together without having to worry about the children. It was very romantic and sweet.

October 8, 2007
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What fun to have away time with your lover. I hope it was time to heal wounds and get to re know each other.

Yes C. is a bottomless pit. I got off work today, took a sick day and got my prescription refilled as my excuse. i drove him to and from the dcotor, the day before I had comforted him when he had to drink the purge stuff. I bught his liquid diet. And finally today I cooked him a steak dinner.
Now I want some me time with my remaiing part of my day off.

October 14, 2007
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feeling sorry for myself. I have a little wimpy cold so I've been sitting at home not doing much. that get's me depressed. I'll be better tomorrow

October 15, 2007
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I hoped that you will be feeling better soon. I am a nice in general,but when I get sick, I have the most self-pity party ever!

((((tiger)))

October 16, 2007
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(((Tiger))) Feel better soon. Just growl your way back to good health 🙂

October 19, 2007
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Yeah I don't think my antidepressants work when i am sick.
I am getting better. Thanks for your good wishes.

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