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tired of feeling responsible for my familys actions
January 28, 2004
6:56 pm
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chloeysmomma
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to make my point please read my post on here about my family and me needing help i always feel responsible for what happens in my family i have decided to let them all go and it hurts me but i have no choices left my sister that ran away is making more bad choices with older men and she told my mom that she was gonna be like me and do what i did and i wanna just smack her upside the head why do i countiune to feel responible for their actions what can i do ?

January 28, 2004
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Disengaging from our families is really hard, even though you know that it is the best thing to do.

You can tell your sister what mistakes you made and that you do not want to see her make the same ones, but they will ultimately have to be her choices, not yours. She has to make her own choices and her own mistakes.

Regarding your Mother - I thought she had been arrested? In any case, she has her own issues that she needs to contend with.

Work on your marriage, your daughters and yourself.

Z.

January 29, 2004
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i will and moving on hurts so much but i have to i cannot countinue to feel sorry for what she does or how other people act in my family i just wonder why i was stuck with a family that was so dysfunctional that it makes me sick to my tummy and i get no support from anyone except when i come here i feel isolated what should be my next step from being codependant

January 29, 2004
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CM,

All you can do is your best. Start spending your time differently. Instead of spending your time obsessing about what your family is doing, work on yourself.

Maybe consider taking a class or two at your local community college.

Disengaging from them is difficult, and if they are like mine they will try to drag you right back in. It's a bit easier for me because I live in another state, but I can still get sucked in - very easily at that.

February 2, 2004
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iam finally detoxing from my family feeling like more responsible for myself though i still love my mom and want a friendship with her i wish her the best and iam focusing more on me for once i feel so dang good

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