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tired of being unhappy
September 25, 2000
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What is hard for me is that there are so many choices that is is hard to decide what to do. Where I live you have "arrived" if you have the option to be a stay-at-home-mom and are almost looked down upon if you do work. We need my income but it is hard to know where to draw the line. We are pioneer women in away. A lot of our mothers stayed at home and it is sometimes hard to be different plus all the housework, childrearing, moneymanaging, keeping a husband happy, having a social life, being attrative and getting a good night's sleep. We should pat ourselves on the back!

September 26, 2000
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See it's funny like that. My fiance is in business, studying for his CFP (certified financial planner) certificaiton exams. He worked out a plan for us including a minimum possible income for both of us working, one working and then one working and one part-time and that's why we decided that I do the part-time work. It had the highest income to expenditure ratio. This includes IRAs and retirement and medical expenses (I have more than normal).

I'm lucky to have him to work out the numbers and show me, many couples don't ever do that. They just assume you make more with two incomes.

The issue is that people don't consider it work if you stay home. That's the hardest job there is because you don't get any sick leave or vacations, you're stuck there. And you don't have any interns to do the extra work for you, it's all on you.

And it is true what Molly said (go girl) about the state of affairs with family. In my educational psychology class we're discussing techniques for moral education at school. It's ridiculous. That should be done at home, with parents.

September 26, 2000
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What scares me, is after the dare program, which was nothing but PR for the local cops, and snooping on mom, and dad, they are going to have mental health folks on campus, isn't that almost like Hitler, or Castro???
Moms gotta have an outlet, and money creates the sense of independence in a dependent situation, but the kids need a mom at home, we had more power at home, we were in controll of the church, the school, and the hospital, as well as there for after school organizations. We knew what was going on, what a grapevine, I bet home theft was down too.
Gee, get the kids doped up on the chemical of the day, and pop in the morality of choice hmmmmmmmm that pisses me off, but if we are not standing guard at the gate, its our fault. I remember I couldn't intoduce a study program through the PTA for kids because of some ones religious objection, we are tossing our freedoms...

September 27, 2000
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so where do i go from here? Do i pick a 9-5, ants marching in type job or do I go for something in the freelance area where I can make up my own schedule or do I get a job as a border patrol agent where they can pay my loans back and i get to run around on quads all-day...im so confused! There are way too many choices nowadays. My mom used to tell me she had two choices when she graduated from college, to become a teacher or become a nurse. She doesnt understand that there are other choices and wonders why I'm so stressed out about the future. I just want to make the right choice. I want to do the stuff that I can when i'm young and have all the flexibility and energy to do what I want. I want to travel, but need the money, i want to go to school for another year but need the money, I need to pay back my loans, but need to make money. GRRRRR! I need to make $376 by the 1st to pay rent but have been making nothing at my job! I'm stressed, I wish I would win the lottery!

September 27, 2000
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Your not alone, what about flight attendent, you can travel, and school, depends on the program, loans if student can't they be deffered? I have been an employee, and self employed, they both have benifits, and draw backs. If you are an employee, you usually work for an idiot, and must follow stupid rules, but benifits, some time off, and some security, if self employeed, you never get time off, and must pay for all your retirement, and medical, but you are freeeeeeeeeeeeeee. Well sorta. Right now, I am wondering what the heck it is that I want to do. A job where I make bucks, work from 10-2 with lunch, and massages are provided, or at least regular spa treatments. To many choices, and life is so expensive, I can tell you that once you are independent, it is so hard to take orders, and punch time clocks.

September 30, 2000
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yeah, ive thought of the flight attendant thing. I dont know if I could keep up with the life, though. I love to travel but I also need something a little stable, also.
I finally found some normal girlfriends here! We have been going out every night, though! I've been having so much fun but I'm starting to think im over-doing it. Now im broke and worrying about bills and i have so much going on in my life that im constantly moving, no time to sit down and think or watch t.v., even. I'm starting to feel what I call "strung out", doing too much in too little of time.
There is so much i have to do right now, finishing school, im takin an extra photography class, i have an internship, im working as a waitress to pay the bills at a bar (that i"ve been making absolutely no money at!), im trying to have a social life and keep things on good terms with my boyfriend. Part of me is so happy, but another part is thinking that im headed for spontaneous combustion in the near future! Im trying to be superwoman!

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