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Time really does heal a broken heart......fm Hurts_so_bad
September 17, 2005
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A couple of months ago I would have never believed that my heart could be healed as time moved on.....but it has been.

I got my proof the other day when he sent an email and then followed it up with a phone call. The conversation wasn't very long, and we basically just chit chatted.

The next day he called me again .... just to chit chat.

Today, he called as well.....never said anything of importance really, just telling me about his job, etc.....and again, very short conversation. Hmmm....he called me 3 days in a row. Very unusual indeed. He actually eluded to the fact that Thursday nite all he did was go home and pay bills and today he was going to take the afternoon off and go fishing.

So how did I react to these calls? Or rather, how did my heart react? My heart remained calm and grounded. It didn't make me crazy thinking that he's calling because he wants me back, or he's calling because he misses me (although he did tell me he's been thinking about me - but I cut him off and just made a stupid joke about it. I didn't really want to know what he was thinking).

I won't pretend I know why he called me 3 days in a row yet - I just know that it's probably not for the reason I want.....so I'm just letting it go. I no longer hurt, I feel sad sometimes, but I'm alot wiser now and these past few days are proof in my mind that I will survive without him.

September 17, 2005
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Hi Hurts: Isn't that wierd that he called so much now- now that you let him alone. But yet he doesn't say anything of importance. Kind of too little (nothing?) too late, isn't it? He doesn't exactly know how to keep the fires burning, does he?

I think its good that you're beginning to move on. You've told him before what you wanted and he wasn't willing to deliver. Still doesn't seem like he is. Does he expect you to wonder about the girlfriend? Is he still calling you while seeing her? Would you want to be her, while he's calling you? You deserve something much better, Hurts. SD

September 17, 2005
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I absolutely agree with you SD. Believe me, I have no intention of falling for his games again if that's what he's planning to do. Of course, I don't know that he's trying to reel me back in. He could actually just want to be my friend like he's said before. But then, I don't think so. I don't see what he could gain from our friendship....it's not as if we could hang out with each other or double date given the distance between us.

Men are a confusing breed, but this woman has had enough and I will not hold my breath concerning him. I am continuing to let go and I'm proud of myself at how far I have come. 🙂

September 17, 2005
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YOU ROCK!!!and ya gave me some hope today...thanks:)

September 17, 2005
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hey hurts, can I ask you a question? How did you do it? I mean let go?

September 17, 2005
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Hooray, Hooray, Hooray!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so excited for you HSB!!!!!

I pray you will always be motivated to do the right thing. We should always demand the best for us, esp in relatioships, not less, i.e. someone who loves us dearly, not use us or take advantage of us.

Keep up the great work!!!

XOXOXO~Ras~

September 17, 2005
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Way to gooooooooooooooooo Hurts!!! Press on, sweetie! So liberating, eh? Ata girl:)

September 17, 2005
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yeah...how the heck did ya do it?

September 17, 2005
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Hurts:

I know you'd get there in your own time. Feels great doesn't it.
GOOD FOR YOU!! I'm so happy for you and proud of you.

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September 19, 2005
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Hello HSB, Wow, you are doing great. Pat yourself today. I still hurt sometimes. Still fresh. Still angry. Yet the knowledge that a few months from now it will be easier. I still look around or think about him. It is crazy. but Im doing ok.

September 19, 2005
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Wow... i'm curious to know how you gain control of your emotions? that's really powerful to remain firm and calm in spite of the "games -(may or may not be, i don't know)". i am so weak now, that a single phonecall just to tell me how and what he's doing will ignite hopes of us having a future together, as ridiculous as it may seem... 🙁

September 19, 2005
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Painful honey,

We all start from that place.

We put boundaries in place to protect and guard our hearts from further harm or disrespect.

When we finally walk or ignore or set boundaries, they often do the thing we've LONGED for: they turn around, seek us out, and act decent (for a little while, anyhoo).

It will only ever last long enough for us to waver and fall back in position at their feet, grabbing their ankles! Of course they try to get away! This is not just their stuff. Loving too much is also a form of abuse. Do you get the visual here?!

Anyway, this is where my power lies, in owning my own chit.

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