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This helped me!
October 16, 2006
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The day before I left my husband I found this:

'It only takes one person to change your life--you'.
--Ruth Casey

Change is not easy, but it's absolutely unavoidable. Doors will close. Barriers will surface. Frustrations will mount. Nothing stays the same forever, and it's such folly to wish otherwise. Growth accompanies positive change; determining to risk the outcome resulting from a changed behaviour or attitude will enhance our self-perceptions. We will have moved forward; in every instance, our lives will be influenced by making a change that only each of us can make.
We have all dreaded the changes we knew we had to make. Perhaps even now we fear some impending changes. Where might they take us? It's difficult accepting that the outcome is not ours to control. Only the effort is ours. The solace is that positive changes, which we know are right for us and other people in our lives, are never going to take us astray. In fact, they are necessary for the smooth path just beyond this stumbling block.
When we are troubled by circumstances in our lives, a change is called for, a change that we must initiate. When we reflect on our recent as well as distant past, we will remember that the changes we most dreaded again and again have positively influenced our lives in untold ways.

Change ushers in glad, not bad, tidings.

I hope that it can help someone else.


October 16, 2006
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DEAR Chardy----

i find it so amazing that sometimes what we need to hear is presented right in front of us -- and sometimes it takes something to read in order for us to be motivated...
thank you

I did not sleep at all and have been crying... i can't figure out what i am feeling...

i try to hide the melancholy mood from the kids... they give me stength

i feel so lost

i feel so abandoned

and yet i have made some

positive changes

and i still feel so sad...

thank you for this

the tears have now stopped

knowing that others are

experiencing some difficult times

and have overcome

October 16, 2006
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Hi Needrtoheal

I wish I could say that I have overcome but I am still having bad days. Today I want to contact him, but I won't.

I wish I could feel angry at him but most of the time I don't.

Looking back over the last ten weeks though I have really moved on, grown!

Today I am sorting out my office. I've hardly done any work in the past ten weeks because it is all such a mess. Today is the start of getting back on track.

I know what I'm feeling and that is confused, no need to dig any deeper because I don't have the answers.

I am so glad that this motivated you, stay strong.


Love Chardy

October 16, 2006
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Thanks so much for posting this. I am at a point where I'm not too sure what is going to happen in my marriage. I have confronted him about his verbal abuse and have been holding on, reading everything I can to gain knowledge and get my self-esteem back. I keep wondering if it's worth all of the hard work on my part. I've made some changes, but there are still so many that need to be made. Reading what you wrote just gave me a another little push to keep up with what I'm doing, which is trying to make life better for my kids and me.

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