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THINKING OF HAVING A FLING
February 20, 2006
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Can anyone help??? First my situation at home is: I live with an active user, I am a recovering addict. I know that is a "no no" in the world of recovery, but seeing him the way he gets when he is high makes me sick and not want to get high. The only thing we really have now is a friendship.
So on to something that has developed--there is this guy at work-- we flirt alot-- it makes me feel good. Do I or don't I?????????????

February 20, 2006
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My opinion, keep the flirting if that makes you feel good about yourself. But to take it to the next level, are you prepared to be deceitful and untruthful?
Take care of your home-life first, is my response.
That's what I would want for me in my situation, hell in any situation.
Good luck-do the right thing...

February 20, 2006
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So you're considering a fling with another guy because you're needs aren't being met at home. Why not consider another sort of fling, perhaps a fling with Life?

Your needs are important! Why stay in a relationship that is so damaging to you?

If you have enough resources and energy for a fling with a guy on the side, then you've got enough resources and energy to strike out on your own! 🙂

February 20, 2006
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Guyco:
I like your advise, I really should keep it only at a fling level. I need to straighten up my home life.

Gingerleigh:
How true, I will think about what you said,
thanks to all

February 20, 2006
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bday,

Ccongratulations on your recovery!!!

Is this fella your husband? Are you at liberty to leave the relationship when you chose?

You sound very unhappy in the current enviornment.

I'm glad his using is not a temptation for you. But, I firmly believe that we (as human beings) either RISE to take on the strengths of the comany we keep or FALL to take on the weaknesses of the company we keep.

I hate the thought of this fellas habbits pulling you down.

I can only imagine how hard you've worked to get where you are today...My ex struggles with his drug and alochol addiction, so I know they don't call it recovery for nothing.

I appreciate all the great advice prior. A fling might be a pleasant distraction from the problems at home, but when it is over...the problems will remain.

The problems might even seem more complicated if you are in a committed relationship-due to added feelings of guilt for being unfaithful.

Best wishes to you!

*Have a fling with life*

Ginger, I'm aready thinking about ways to implement that! Thank you!

February 20, 2006
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ginger, I couldn't have said it better. Have a fling with life. I love it!!

February 21, 2006
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yes, believe me it is not worth it at all...take care of the stuff at home and at work..it only creates a mess!!!
You do not want to go through life looking at yourself in the mirror and knowing what you have done!

Figure out if you can fix your home life, then move on....I bet after you look at the real situation, you will think twice, there is never a good solution to be lying and deceitful!

Take care, stay strong!
Hopefully you will heed the advice given here, one mess will not be cleaned by creating another mess!
nvr2late

February 21, 2006
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Bday my advice to you is go for it as long as the guy is clean and not using you will get away from the first thing you learn people places and things. You dont have to tell your new friend that your in recovery if he is not a user.here is my advice a user will always make a ex user a user again. Good luck in what ever you decide Bone T

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