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Things are looking up!
September 22, 2003
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i just talked to an old friend and she was telling me all these things about my ex and his new girlfriend..I feel so much relief.. usually id be sad, depressed, upset and crying over such news..but i realize I am truely growing and it feels so rejoyceful... she told me he has found a new girlfriend in her late 20's with two kids and that she is stripping for him and having her friends do the same things for him...its really a sad situation and i feel really bad for her and her kids because of the trap he is setting them in but as for me things are great because i no longer have to be a part or deal with such issues in my life ever again..Usually id be wanting him and trying to change him and myself to accomodate such things but i would never allow him to let me go so low as to doing such things as he has her doing (even tho he has asked a million times).. i realized how unhealthy he is and regardless of how he is supposely in recovery and all that.. his patterns are never gonna change.. and i dont have to be around such actions anylonger. I honestly can say i wish him the best and can hope for the rest but with me.. he can never destroy my life again.. and i thank everyone here on this thread for sharing their stories for that.. thanks ((((((HUGS)))))))))

September 22, 2003
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That's wonderful that you got to a safe place inside you where you have detached from him!

We all wish they would change and treat us well, but with them, they can't/won't.

Eventually the hope runs out.

SOS...Save Our Souls. You have saved yours and I am proud of you and so happy for you. You lost nothing but a heap of problems.

Go see what life has in store for you around the corner when you are ready. This time, you will recognize the early warning signs in any new fellow you meet. The only thing worse than being in this type of relationship would be to get into another one!!!! LOL

I am sure you can smile freely now.
PS---Don't get dragged into the situation with his new life or girlfriend. Don't let any of them suck you into it. And if he leaves her or she leaves him, don't take him back!!!!!!!! Or will we all come over and kick your butt!!!! LOL

September 22, 2003
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LOL @ unhappy camper..yea I've done that several times.. we were together off and on for 4 years but this is one time in my life I can truely say things are different and Ive seen the light..its a wonderful and blessed feeling..and I feel nothing but peace and serenity at the moment..thanks for always looking out!

September 23, 2003
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Sometimes I hate the days of my true codependent days... one day you are truely elated about your day.. the next down and out.. Im still feeling happy about my current situation but theres also this overwelming sadness that is creeping about in my day.. thoughts of unworthyness and insecurities in myself.. its hard to move moment to moment sometimes..anyone have any advice on how they maintain this and still feel good about themselves?

September 23, 2003
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I know, I know.....

Perhaps it's a feeling that we were rejected by them? Why did they act so meanly to us?

It's NOT our fault. But it hurts. And it's not fair. Other people's partners are nice. Why not ours?

Not because of what we did. They are just sick. Plain and simple.

Time will put a distance between you and your hurt and it will eventually be a distant memory. You are doing the best you can. That is all you can ask of yourself.

Remember what a stinker he is! LOL
I bet mine is stinkier than yours!

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