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THERE'S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK
July 27, 2005
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Someone posted this (I think) yesterday, and I thought it was excellent. I apologize that I don't remember who so that I can give credit where credit is due, and to also thank you.

I found it on the web and learned that each Chapter's meaning is also outlined there with some really good info.:

More info at URL: http://www.lessons4living.com/.....f_life.htm

JW - I was especially thinking about you and what you said in your last post (about handling "real" life) when I decided to post this. I think you'll learn that you are not so alone, my friend ... =)

Enjoy!

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THERE'S A HOLE IN MY SIDEWALK

Autobiography in five short chapters, by Portia Nelson

1. I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I fall in. I am lost ... I am helpless. It isn't my fault. It takes me a long time to find a way out.

2. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I pretend I don't see it. I fall in again. I can't believe I am in the same place, but it isn't my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

3. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I see it is there. I still fall in ... it's a habit. My eyes are open. I know where I am. It is my fault. I get out immediately.

4. I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk. I walk around it.

5. I walk down another street.

Life is like a stroll down a somewhat hazardous sidewalk. The story identifies the key feature required to safely navigate life's sidewalk.

In choosing your reactions to life you must observe yourself everyday. You strive to catch your negative thinking as it starts so you can reprogram it. Do it everyday whether you want to or not. Do it long enough and it becomes a habit. With the self discipline of a habit you avoid the repetitive holes in the sidewalk of life. You are in charge of you and life goes better. Remember: Pay attention to what you think. Look out for the holes in the sidewalk.

July 27, 2005
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"Step on a crack, you break your mother's back."

This is a saying as children we'd say as trying to avoid the cracks in the sidewalk. We would walk, hop, skip over the laid, purposeful cracked cement sections along with the ones brought on by nature and natural aging.

If we as children were so aware of avoiding these cracks, how is it we as adults have learned to fall into them? I believe we CAN re-learn how to avoid them.

After all, how many of you STILL to this day sorta sidestep to miss that sidewalk crack?

July 27, 2005
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This arrow and board seem to have a mind of it's own, continuing....

This is a great thread, Angel. Yes, everyday has a new dawn to capture, to embrace and explore. And with each day we need to be aware of the old records playing. It is easy to be in the negative; it is habit, the familiar, the comfort of pain; we know how to deal with; sometimes better than dealing with the good things.

Each day we need to remind ourselves what we are able to achieve, what possibilities we can encounter and master. The choice is ours. The opportunity is ours. We do have that choice.

~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

"Just living is not enough... One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower."
-- Hans Christian Anderson

July 27, 2005
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very fun, sew! We did that too when we were kids, and sometimes I still think of that (actually it's an automatic habit now to think of fit) whenever I see a crack in the cement. I didn't even think of relating it to this though ... very clever! From now on, whenever I see a crack I think it is going to make me smile (and think of you, too) ... =)

You ask: "If we as children were so aware of avoiding these cracks, how is it we as adults have learned to fall into them? I believe we CAN re-learn how to avoid them."

As the website implies, there are 2 kinds of cracks (holes) - the ones that we can see and the ones that happen out of nowhere, like an unexpected earthquake cracking through earth's precious soil (e.g. a death, disaster, etc.). And WE all are going to experience them in our life ... we are not the only ones. So it's important not to fall into the mode of thinking "life's not fair"!

Why we don't deal with them - maybe we haven't learned how yet, or are stuck in old patterns of thinking/reacting, etc.

But as the website so eloquantly shares (and I oh so love how they did it!) ...

Fall into enough of the holes in the sidewalks of life and you may become whole. Through the lessons of the holes of life, you approach wholeness. Becoming whole means striving to be all that you can be. All potentialities are explored. You know what you do, and why you do it. Choices are made, and you are responsible for these choices. The holes in the sidewalk are actually invitations to grow. Are you open to the invitation?

Thanks so much for your additional positive thoughts, sew, they are such a breath of fresh air! You sound like you are doing so well, girl! and I am sooo happy to see it!!!

angel4U

July 27, 2005
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This is really insightful. Thank you for sharing it with me, with all of us here.

I have lived the first 3 chapters. Now, I am in the hole with my eyes wide open wondering How the h*** I got here again.

I think I will have to write a journal entry about this tonight.

July 27, 2005
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I have got to find an old email about the Potters something or other...about a clay pot with a crack...will look to post later...it is beautiful.

July 27, 2005
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This is a great thread, Angel I loved that story...story of my life, as well as the story of so many people I know....thanks for sharing it. Very direct and hopeful for me.

July 29, 2005
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Glad you all enjoyed and found this to be helpful ... I did too. I found the information the have written on the website about each of the Chapters to be helpful, too.

Hang in there all! ... I really feel that it won't be long when the day will come that we see a crack or we happen to fall in one by accident/no fault of ours, and we simply say: "Oh, another one of those, been here, done that ... and I know exactly what I need to do so that I don't fall in that hole again ... or ... we'll have the right rope (tools) to pull us back out "quickly" ... =-)

One lassoooo-ey comin' up!

angel4U

July 29, 2005
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I came upon that story about the hole in my sidewalk last week and it spoke very loudly to me about what I was going through and how to break patterns. I was feeling very empowered.....Well, this week it's like I strapped on a rocket to my butt and dove straight into the hole. My friend calls me "Cave-woman" because I always cave instead of holding out to change the pattern. Why is this so hard to learn. I guess I'm learning about absolutes. On one hand it's supposed to be good to be understanding and forgiving, but then you have to set those dang limits. I'm going down a whole "new street" next week and will be leaving town and will be totally incommunicado, maybe that will help break the pattern. Otherwise I'll just have to leave the dang planet.

Take care everyone!

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