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Therapist Help
September 15, 2005
3:54 pm
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Hi all,
I'm new here, and was hoping for some help. I am going to see a new therapist on Monday morning and there are a lot of issues that I want to work on in my life. In the past I have never really gotten into the issues that I wanted to work on with any therapists because we only ever talked about "surface problems". For example, my last therapist only talked about my mother in law hurting my feelins, we never got into why my feelings are so easily hurt or any of my anger issues or how to deal with things that people say that I don't like. Do you know what I mean? Would it be ok for me to make a list and take it with me to the therapist so I don't get off track? I asked a different group of people this and they said that was not a good idea. I don't know what else to do. I never stick with a therapist long enough to produce any results and I am desperate to get help right now.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

September 15, 2005
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I don't see any harm in voicing your concerns and expectations to your therapist, and if a list helps you to remember what it is that you want to accomplish, then use it.

I do however feel that once you voice these things to your therapist, let him/her do their job after that. Keeping the list in hand throughout your visits, may inhibit your progress by making you or your therapist feel that things are "not on schedule" or "done in the correct order." You know what I mean?

September 15, 2005
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I take notes with therapy to help me.

I don't always remember the issues I had all week, so when I get talking, I get sidetracked.

so I take notes, just to refresh my memory of what was the key things I needed to remember.

but as shaney just said - don't go in with your own schedule - trust that your therapist will get you where you need to be.

I went to a coda meeting and a few therapy sessions thinking "what a waste of my time" because the lessons we dealt with were not applicable to me. But just a day later - they were. So trust you will learn the lessons you need to learn - when you need to.

but to start, stating expectations and why you are seeking help never hurt anyone.

September 15, 2005
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Your therapist might ask you what you hope to accomplish. take that idea with you.

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