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The signs are there...I'm getting better at this life thing!!
May 29, 2005
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Hi All,

Well, I have given my ex-heroin addict lodger the heave-ho, he's to be out by next friday. I am just disgusted by him though, I can't believe someone would put the stranger who took them in and gave them a break into such danger. I am so scared that some gangster will come looking for this guy with a gun and mistake my boyfriend for him...all these horrible thoughts I am thinking at the moment. How could I have been so STUPID! The person I am most annoyed with is MYSELF. Good God when am I going to stop living in the LA-LA land where everyone is nice and loves each other???? NOW that when...RIGHT NOW. There are nice people in the world...and there are not nice people...thats just life.

May 29, 2005
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Excellent move, kuddos on the initiative on your part. Sometimes ugly truths come slowly, and we either get accustomed to them or make excuses for each on as they come our way, to justify continuting contact, or the unhealthy friendship, or business arrangement, or relationship, etc.

I stood back one day and realized I was with somebody who was allowing the shadiest sorts in society to come in and our of her house AND life, placing herself and her children at risk, and ever-increasing her involvement in risky and dangerous behavior. Takes lots of perspective to see the trouble you are in the center of, especially if there is an emotional componant to the attatchment.

Good for you.

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May 29, 2005
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Way to go Rev! This is how we learn by mistake. I am also idealist, I live in la la land. When I do benevolent thing to someone and feel cheated, I hate myself and sort of punish myself. The truth is we should not. We simply need to learn that we live in the law of the jungle, where more evil is prevelant than good and the big beast eats the small beast.

Learn from this mistake and move on. Be selective next time when you interview a lodger or tenant. Try to find out about their background. Do not be tolerant of any inappropriate behavior. Ask your b/f for help, he might be more experienced.

Good luck!

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May 29, 2005
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I"m proud of you Rev, you made the right decision. I too believe the world is always good.

May 29, 2005
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I believe the world can be bad, but we lead by example...We have to give trust for others to respect it. I guess I belive so many people are truely good, and refuse to let a few bad apples ruin itfor the bunch of us. Maybe I'm naive, I guess, but I understand how disheartened it makes you feel.

Of course you did the right thing. You gave trust, it was abused, that's all. you tried to the degree you needed to, you owe the situation nothing more, and yourself some piece of mind (and a general sence of safety, my gosh!).

(((((((((revelation))))))))))))))

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