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The reason i came here
May 19, 2004
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I'm sure that probably no one knows what brought me to AAC.And it's only now that i'm realising this, so here we go.

I met my husband while trying to get over another relationship.We are of different nationality,so we had to decide whether to live in my/his country.Infact it was more convenient for me to leave mine for his.(for so many good reasons).But he never forced me into anything,everything that i've done was at my own free will.I had to leave my job,family, my best friend and of course my beautiful island.

Now, i was a housewife,in a country where i didn't know anyone and doesn't even speak their language.(but hubby speaks eng.and french like me).Even if we were very much inlove i started to feel lonely,desperate and confused.I had no one to talk to about my feelings.So i started to search the web.I came across alot of other sites but none was as interesting and warm like this one.

Hubby has always been so nice and loving towards me but he was possessive.So i thought that maybe this is why he wanted me to be a housewife.But by reading through the threads here,and making my 'no buts' list i realised that i did not really had big problems in my relationship but i had to talk to him about his possessiveness.Long story short-He was very positive in our talks and has really change.He wanted to see me happy,and to kept the promise that he made to me and my family, that he will take good care of me, make me happy and love me always.Well we never know what tomorrow brings,but for now i'm a happy housewife with a loving husband.

Even if right now i don't have problems in my relationship,i just can't stop coming to the board.It's as if i've already created a bond with you all that i just can't break.Anyway,a little venting now, i think my first baby is on the way-i will know tomorrow.I'm excited!

Love to all....

Toutou.

May 19, 2004
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TOUTOU: thanks for coming to the board, and yes we are always here 24/7...and for you to realize that you "may" have problems with your hubby and his possesiveness, its a start to at least recognize that, and you do have a place to vent and share.
Congrats on your baby!!!

May 19, 2004
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Camer,i came to the board a couple of months ago,but i did not really post about my situation.This possessiveness issue i've already sorted it out months ago.At least now it doesn't exist anymore in our relationship.Apart from that there was/is no problem.But just by being possessive can lead to alot of other issues.I'm so happy that hubby is very understanding.Ready to listen and compromise.

May 19, 2004
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toutou,I wish you lots of luck with the baby stuff. How exciting for you! When I and my ex husband first found out about my 1st pregnancy we were sooo excited, but also a lot of things changed. His possessive characteristics got many times worse. I do not wish this on you, by any means-I simply want you to be aware of the new boundries you have set. Do not bend them. Remember that pregnancy puts you in a very vulnerable spot. Most abusive in relationship starts or gets worse during pregnancies. Good Luck. I am very very proud of the growth your husband has had and the amount of energy he has put toward the relationship. I commend him for listening to your needs. He sounds like a good man. You guys have a good life together! Count your blessings.

May 19, 2004
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Infact i see him as a good man.The only thing i didn't like was the one mentioned.As soon as we got married he put my name on his account,and i've had all responsibilities for all our transactions,spending etc...If he needs money he will ask me,he never ask me how much i've spend,how much we have.He always helps me to clean the house,to do the shopping.He will always open the door for me,pull the chair,bring me flowers,breakfast in bed,massage almost every night....in return i give him all my love and affection.And i really didn't want the possessiveness to destroy all that.And like you say ,i hope too that it doesn't come back.Because right now we are very happy.But sometimes alot of wonderful relationship just fall apart....so like the saying goes -expect the unexpected.

May 19, 2004
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the good part is your hear..Angel1

May 19, 2004
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iam glad also your here hugs and congrats

May 19, 2004
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Toutou,

Félicitations! Mon ami, vous connais exciter avoir le bonheur de jouir de bébé!

Affectueusement,

Zinnie

p.s. - I hope you can understand that... I know I speak "Canadian French" my kids make fun of me!

Z.

May 19, 2004
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Toutou congratulations. I would give anything to be in a loving marriage with a baby on the way. I'm glad you are here sharing with us and I wish you all the very best and a healthy pregnancy. Please keep us up to date with how things are going. How EXCITING for you!!!!

May 20, 2004
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Toutou,

Any news yet?

Z.

May 21, 2004
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Hi all,

Thanks for all your responses.I could not post yesterday,because i was going up and down not only for myself but also for my little dog.He had to do a surgery yesterday but now he seems ok and he is back at home.

Zinnie,i do understand your little message in French and it's so nice of you, thanks.Now i don't really practice it much,because my husband and i prefer to use English.Infact,Eng. and french are two languages that i've studied at school(no wonder there is so many mistakes in my posts)lol.Now i end up with four;mine,my husband's and those two.

The only news for now is that i've done the urine test in the laboratory and my pregnancy has been confirmed.My next appointment is monday and hopefully i'll get some blood test done and know more about it.

Love to all....Toutou.

May 21, 2004
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Ha, you should hear me "speak" it, Canadian French at that, now with a Texas accent. No wonder the kids laugh at me.

Well, big hugs and congrats to you and your husband, I'm so happy for you!

Please keep me posted on how you are doing.

Love,

Zinnie

May 23, 2004
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I was just wondering about how long i've been pregnant.But i can't figure it out because my cycle is not regular and my last one was around end of march but just for three days (not the normal 5-6 days).I know that they will be able to tell me at the hospital,but i'm just worried because last month i had chicken pox and i don't know if i was pregnant then.I've heard and also read how it can affect your baby during pregnancy.Tomorrow,hopefully i'll find out.I'm worried!

Toutou.

May 23, 2004
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Congratulations Toutou!!!! I hope that all goes well and you get good news at the hospital!!! You sound so kind and warm, and I'm glad you decided to keep coming here. W.

May 23, 2004
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Thank you Wanttobewell.I come to the board almost everyday even if i don't post everyday.I read almost all the threads too,so to see how the others are doing.Unfortunately i cannot contribute on all the post but just by reading i feel like i've at least done the part of 'listening'.

May 23, 2004
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You're exactly right. Sometimes just knowing you're actually being listened to by people of like mind is the most important thing for us. W.

May 24, 2004
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I was expecting some good news today but unfortunately they have just take my blood and i will have the results in twelve days-unbelievable- I just don't know why it should take soooo long.I know i can't get it the same day,but twelve is a little bit too much. (just venting).

May 24, 2004
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Did you tell them you had the chicken pox? If so, perhaps they are sending out your blood work to the lab.

In any case, you, your husband and that precious baby are in my thoughts and prayers.

Love,

Z.

May 24, 2004
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Thank you Zinnie.I did tell them about ch.pox,but i don't think it's for this that they will take so long,it's just how they work here!Anyway i have appoin. with the gynaecologist next week and i'll see what happens there.Until then my friend....

Toutou.

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