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the new start was his new identity???
August 25, 2007
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yep.

i do feel bad after knowing he pulled me in again....after knowing i allowed him to pull me in i mean.

i am pathetic. i love too much.

or i don't love myself enough.

i know i have to change...but i keep falling backwards. daily.

August 26, 2007
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lala- He is playing you like a slot machine. He keeps calling and giving you different stories hoping he will cash out (you will give him what he wants). This man is emotionally unavailabe, he is trying to use You as a shield to protect him from his consequences.

It is like you are standing on a cliff and he is standing below telling you to jump and we are here telling you to step back out of harms way.

Dont trust him. He is trying to set you up for failure. You are nothing more than a pawn in his game called life.

Dont worry when he doenst hear from you he'll call again. He has to. He is going to spend all day and night trying to figure out a way to con you into dropping the charges into helping him out with his court case. And the second that you do, your done. He will have no further use for you.

August 26, 2007
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i agree with you that he will discard me....but he already has discarded me....long time ago...i was too willing to settle for nothing but heartache....and i have to change me....as i am doing all the same things and getting the same outcome.....i have to change.....i have to change. no more listening and wanting to save him...

you are so right. thanks for listening. i didn't call him since then...the sexual inuendos about he was getting ready for someone else hurt me bad....to the core.

he had changed his cell and then i had the new number so i was better off when i didn't know his number.....it makes it look bad for me.....wanting to talk to a man i called the sheriff on.......makes me look real stupid.....probably because i am...

August 27, 2007
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i hope i can get a good dose of "strengthy" form all of you before i pack up my laptop and get on the road back down south. 1,300 miles of no radio and thoughts...so i need some good fuel for a better tomorrow to think about while heading back to my home.

my mother is still with us....it is bittersweet as i know this time when i leave she won't be with us when i get up next time. she is frail and the alzheimers and congestive heart failure is taking a big toll. so say a prayer for my mom....i can use the no radio time to do the same.

i hope when i get back that he didn't get in to the condo some way and take stuff...i have been gone for two weeks. it will be nice to open the door and have it all the same clean lil spot as when i left. ahhhhhh....i'm ready to get back into life.....i was out to lunch for a long while over this...now it is work time on me.

i have to have posts that keep urging me to stay zero tolerance on the contact....i have to have posts that make me understand that his way way the highway to hell way....i have to ask you guys to fill me up with courage to look at the bully and say stop it. man i need this aac.

and my new counseling buddies.....

August 27, 2007
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lala- This man know your weaknesses and was creating this drama with having sex with someone else just to break you down. If there is a restraining order and he breaks into your condo make a police report. Also change the locks. Men like that always have to have the last word. He baits you into contacting him then changes his number. He is grasping at straws doing whatever he can to control you. Been there honey. The first one to cut ties wins. These types are about winning. Not restoring or regaining affection. I was with this ididot. Got a restrainig order on him. Yet he would call, and call, and call, and beg and plead. I even had the man I am with now take the calls. Nothing worked. I havent seen the guy in over a year. And I recieved a call from his stupid mother who I have a restraining order on as well that said she was calling to tell me that her son was marrying a wonderful woman. It was almost as if they could not handle the fact I rejected them and actually thought that I gave a rats ass what this ididot was doing. See people like this always have to have the last word. This man is doing nothing more than trying to control you with mental abuse. The one thing a sociopath cant stand is being ignored.

August 27, 2007
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my weakness is loving too much and being forgiving when i shouldn't be...yep....that's me. thanks for sharing...and yes, i already had the locks re-keyed so if someone has been there it will be a B&E for sure and i will call in the police for that....

i shouldn't borrow trouble on what could happen....since i already have enough trouble now....but something tells me he did something as he knew in the phone calls that i have not been home and where was i?????

August 27, 2007
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lala- Lets face it people only call and start trouble with others because
1. They are unhappy
2. They still care about what the person thinks that they are calling
3. The care about what the person thinks because they care about the person

If he was really going out for a date he would be happy and the last thing that would be on his mind would be to call you.

Another tactic these types use is if they are cheating they love to make you think that they would never do a thing like that. He would NEVER call and tell you knowing that if it was actually true and you actually believed him he would have a lot more problems on his hands.

I guarantee you there was no woman he was planning to see but he sure got off making you think he was.

That is the oldest trick in the book. Trying to make someone jealouse.

My husband tried that crap with me and it backfired. I brought a very good looking man home to do some work for me. And that is how he landed in jail. Broke him of the habit of associating with females. I told him for everyone he went around I could get 100.

August 27, 2007
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i would never have tried to bring a guy home with me to do work....no way...i would have been skinned alive....geeeez girl.

but i called him when he was doing the old spice trick.....and shaving.

maybe he was maybe he wasn't can't say....but just thinking it hurts me.....i have to stop thinking about him and his games....

August 27, 2007
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lala- This man is good. He must have rehearsed everything that he was going to say when you called. Right down to the I'm in the middle of shaving routine. Oh, and the fact that he had to broadcast it to you. All behavior has meaning and his was no coincidence. Staged. All staged. My husband would pull all kinds of shit with females. The last one was when I took a number out of his cell phone and he put it back in and said he was going to lock me out of it. A female's number that he just met and got off of a sign in front of her house. Its a long story. He pulled other crap before that. Like I was some kind of fool. It was very dangerouse for me to pull the stunt I did but sooo worth it. Unfortuantly he had no idea how I felt until I mirrored his behavior. This man of yours is just testing you to see what you are made of. Another tactic that defuses them is to agree with them. Or give them a response they would not expect. You could have told him that you were glad to hear that he was moving on so you didnt have to feel guilty about testifying against him. Then you should have ended the conversation on your terms. YOU CAN LEARN ALOT FROM A SOCIOPATH. I looked at the first one that crossed my path as one of the most valuable lessons that I have ever learned. If you want to deal with them you have to think like them.

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