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The bad days pass...
April 22, 2005
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Hi all
I've been feeling blue and depressed for the past week or so, but I just wanted to let you know...it does pass, and at the other end, you wind up a little stonger, a little tougher and a little wiser.

For anyone who's trying to claw their way out of an unhealthy relationship like me...I just wanted to tell you...even when it feels like the world is coming down and your heart will never stop aching...if you just hang on...don't give up...don't give in and don't hop on the roller coaster with that unhealthy "other"...if you just let it ride...it will pass...and when those good days and good feelings come...they are sooo worth it. If you really want out...just sit still...and the hurt will pass. Sure, it'll come back, but it keeps getting less and less and the good days get better and better.

I've come to realize the hard days are the days I'm growing and changing and getting healthy...as long as I DEAL with my feelings and stop trying to distract myself with him then I will eventually come out of this.

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April 22, 2005
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WOW, thanks KC for the positive insight...I am so proud of you and how you dealt with all the feelings and now you are such a stronger woman!!! good for you!! ((camer))

April 22, 2005
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Keep your chin up KC, you are going to be just fine!

April 22, 2005
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Hi KC,

Thank you for ALL of your posts, thank you taking the time share the good and the bad, and for just being real.

I hope you have a wonderful day.

With love and hope...2bstrong

April 22, 2005
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Thanks for the encouragement guys- not really sure what turned things around...but I feel very much in charge of my life, and it's a good feeling. I am breaking the ties that bind...it seems like every layer of pain I go through strengthens my belief that I deserve better. I am truly breaking free of him...

Finally got an appt with my lawyer to sign the divorce petition- I file on Monday.

He moved his stuff out last night- came w/ his sister- I had it all ready to go so he wouldn't have to go through the house and had 4 of my friends over when he arrived so I wouldn't even have to talk to him and he couldn't pull anything funny. It was actually quite painless and there was a real relief in knowing he's gone for good!!

I'm just glad to be feeling good today. Take it where you can get it, right? šŸ™‚

April 22, 2005
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Kc30,

You are such an inspiration. I admire your positive attitude. God bless you and your kids. Keep up the great work!!!

(((HUGS)))

April 22, 2005
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Kc30, Thank you. I wish you could come to my house and say something like that every morning just before my alarm goes off! What a hopeful mindset and post, gives me new hope for myself.

April 22, 2005
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Great attitude KC! Thanks for your optimism, it helps those of us who are struggling to break free and move on with our lives. Keep moving forward with that positive outlook!

April 22, 2005
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You are a real lady. You are working your way out of a very complicated situation, and you are doing it with dignity and grace. Don't let go of that.

April 22, 2005
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holy crap.ur so rite!r u ok?u are really something and i really admire u because a lot of ladies dont see that side of downs, ur amazing.i respect u so much.i hope u get through this okay sweety!xox-mo-xox

April 22, 2005
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KC-

Thank You for your uplifting spirit! I really need that today! I know I want off this rollercoaster and some day I will. I'm just soooo afraid of change, I need to for the sake of my girls and my mind. Reading your posts really help me out!

I hope everything in life that you wanted in the past and NEVER got comes your way šŸ™‚

I'm seem to be always waiting for that ONE situation that blows the lid off my heart to come around for me to say, "Thats it I can't stand it no more!"..

I'm just preparing myself right now, I know he WILL be shocked when I do say, "GET the HELL OUT!", he wwon't know what hit him!!! Probably my foot up his [email protected]@!!

I will seek out a great MAN HATER for a lawyer though!! ha!!

I AM WOMAN, HEAR ME ROAR!!!! I WONT TAKE IT NO MOE NO MOE! I DESERVE BETTER ALSO!!!

April 23, 2005
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KC, I am so happy you are feeling so well about all of this.
Your post have inspired me as well.

I too have been having many good days lately. My deep sorrow is passing (finally). And you're right, the anguish does pass. There are still days I feel sad and weak, but the weakness gets less and less.

All the pain leads to healing and once you heal it feels so darn good.

Don't despair, Kc is correct, stay strong, hold on, keep pushing and one day you wake up and life is good again...

Thanks KC....:-)

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