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That nasty, conniving......
September 24, 2002
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AH-HAAAA! I've caught her red-handed. My supervisor, I mean, the nasty one.

The Big Boss, finally realizing after 3 years and 6 different people in my position that there is an issue with my supervisor rather than the people who've working in my position, is trying to do a whoel human resources intervention between her and I. Basically, his idea is to isolate her from supervising anyone. Which is an iffy solution, but what can you expect from a science guy?

Anyway, instead of allowing her to harp on me, she now has to take her complaints about me to him. I was wondering why she had shut up recently. He brings me this stack of paperwork I did where she has *highlighted* and critiqued the whole freaking paper - basically "grading" it. Ridiculous.

Anyway, he discusses it with me and decides that her critiques are stupid, and I just use a different methodology than she does. He likes my methodology better because we both agree that from our customer's perspective, the way I write things out is more clear.

Anyway, the main issue was this inventory thing. We get a bunch of PCI cards in and I have to enter them into the database, then print out a report. A co-worker in the tech department then checks my report with the cards and corrects any mistakes.

Basically, she took a packet of database reports signed by my co-worker and I, and photocopied portions of the packet, DELETING my co-worker's name, and blaming all the mistakes on ME!

I pulled out my hardcopies and showed the Big Boss that she was misrepresenting all my work, and manipulating the reports on my productivity to show that I was at fault for a number of mistakes made by other people.

This whole time she's been acting all buddy-buddy with me and I was suspicious. Now I know she was making me look like a complete moron to the big boss. For weeks she's been doing this. I am fuming. I don't know what to do.

I mean, I had this long, roundabout conversation with the Big Boss about what was really going on, and he kept saying "I understand, but..." I'm basically trying to undo weeks of misrepresentation to him. So he sees the real reports, but he's still already created an image of me as a bumbling idiot who constantly makes mistakes.

I am so pissed. I don't even know how I can pretend to be civil to this b*tch supervisor. I can't believe she's been doing this, methodically, and I can't understand why she's decided to attack me like this. In a way I can totally trace back to her.

But the Big Boss admonished me NOT to discuss my concerns with her because he's trying to "keep me out of the loop so she doesn't blame her change in circumstances on me".

I thought she would guess I had discussed the issue with Big Boss, and that she would blame me and be vindictive, and now she has - I see that but the Big Boss doesn't. So now I am stuck in a human resources nightmare. Yuck.

I am seriously considering quitting this job. Immediately. Like giving my 2 weeks notice on Friday. Should I tough it out? I do need the money, but money is not worth dealing with this crap.

September 24, 2002
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If you can harden your mind to let this stuff slide off while the details are being worked out, I would say to tough it out. Continue to keep that documentation in your files, and continue your regular meetings with the Big Boss.

If he is talking about a change in circumstances, ESPECIALLY to an underling, then there are already wheels in motion to remove her, if not completely from the company, then at least from your world.

What do you think of the rest of your department? If she weren't there, would this place still be a good place to work? What are the dynamics like on other teams? Is it similar? If so, then the problem may not just be with your supervisor, but with the big boss too and his management style (or lack thereof). I'm going through a similar problem with my job, where the middle managers suck and pull stupid crap, but aren't appropriately disciplined for it by the big boss. Big Boss in our case is the one who really should be removed, so that someone else can come in to do some housecleaning....

Know what I mean?

September 24, 2002
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Yah, I get it. I was so pissed when I found out, but I guess her plan worked since I am now double-checking everything I do, even if it's a team project - because as long as I sign my name on a document, I guess I really am accountable for it, even if other people slack off.

The work environment is tolerable. I'd better get a raise soon though. I'm paying $150 to become a notary, so they have to compensate me somehow. Basically there's the tech department where all the guys write software and fool around with hardware, and then there's the administration. This Big Boss is always down with the tech guys doodling around with code and playing solitaire. If he his way the enitre adminstrative department would be run by magical elves who skittered around at night and organized and tracked everything magically.

I guess I just had to vent. I am still pretty naieve when it comes to the grown-ups world, I swear. It boggles my mind how adults can behave when the heat is on them. I just cover my butt like crazy, it never enters my head to fabricate productivity reports to blame someone else.

Big Boss is grudgingly doing his housecleaning, how can he not when I turn on my high-pitched, overly competant harpy voice?

Thanks ginger, that was a much needed, gentle kick in the ass. 🙂

September 24, 2002
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Its a cruel cruel world out here Cici, and well Adult, could you describe that to me ?

September 25, 2002
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CiCi~

I would tough it out, but toughen my professional exterior a bit. Politics suck, especially when the heat is on those that are above you. My suggestion would be to look to the Big Boss with respect and a business-like demeanor. No venting about the supervisor at all!

Try to stay quiet, don't gossip about it with co-workers and keep checking that work. Make sure anything you do doesn't come back on you!

There are some really good books about how to act in the corporate world. I too work in a primarily 'techie' industry. That group is very tight, and they don't understand any type of administration work. It is very 'abstract' to them.

I would stick it out until the housekeeping is done. You may not like the next boss either, then you could decide to stay or go. With the current economy, I wouldn't want to go to a new company. You know, last in, first out. If you are good at what you do, hang in there!

Keep us posted...

September 25, 2002
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REORG today!!! *barf-o-rama* Like this is supposed to give us warm fuzzies. We had a few more layoffs about 2 weeks ago, and now we're all reporting to different bosses. I'm crawling under my desk now, someone wake me up when it's over and we go public...

September 25, 2002
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ha ha ha Molly "Adult". Hmmm. I've seen a few but they all seem to revert to tempter tantrum mode when the going gets tough.

Oh no gossip for me. I work with all men anyway. Well, there's one other woman who works here but she doesn't speak english very well and (poor thing) is immerse with the other boys writing software all day. Last night I stayed late at work listening to one of the tech guys talk about a new video game he bought. He went on and on for about 20 minutes and I just nodded and said "Oh?" a lot.

I'm all for avoiding contact with my co-workers unless work is involved.

SUpervisor wanted me to go to lunch with her, every time she brings it up I frantically call around to find someone who I "already had plans" with. har har har

September 25, 2002
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Dunno,

Ginger is right: if fish are stinking, then usually the smell is most intensive right at the head. On the other hand - maybe your big boss just noticed that something *is* going wrong, and needs some time to sort it out? Did you have the impression that he understands the situation? Keep talking to the boss - I ended up quitting one job, because I didn't tell the big boss often enough that I did a good job, just worked my ass off (not a good idea - the middle management immediate supervisor collected all the credit and didn't take any of the blame). Tell as many people in the company as possible what a good job you're doing (in a decent way, of course. But men tend not to notice when women work their butt off, anyway.).

And: you're not a newly graduated student anymore, you come whith some pretty good work experience in an exiting area of blah blah.... . Maybe you'd find a new job? Take an hour every other day for browsing job ads and keeping your resumee up do date and writing applications.

Good luck!

September 25, 2002
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It's a toughie because I don't want to work while I'm pregnant. Too much stress. I would be anxious the whole time that something or the other would be causing a miscarriage. So Aaron and I wanted to try again around the December-February period.

This means that if I did quit I would only be working at a new job for like 3 months.

The thing is that this is Big Boss's business - he started it after he retired. It makes oodles of money for him so it was a smart idea, but he's over 70 - kind of out of it, if you know what I mean.

I keep saying blah blah blah to him and half the time I don't think he's getting what I'm saying at all. Frustrated!

September 26, 2002
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Hey CiCi!!

If you want to play nasty with this chic, let me know. I can show you one way to have her azz literally booted from the office building. Just it requires alot of fibbing.

September 27, 2002
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Hah hah - I would consider it. Last night I was having coffee with a friend and said I wanted to punch my boss in the face sometimes. But for now, I'm just going to get a lot of face time in the The Big Boss and be all sweet and pretty to him. He has a soft spot I think. I can feel it in the air as he requests I lean My SQL and some different types of accounting software.....something is going down big time!!!

September 27, 2002
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BTW - hey, joe whaddaya know? How they hanging?

My husband always says "long, strong, and down to get the friction on" - it's a running joke. I think it's from some rap. Oh. now i remember. it's from "Baby Got Back". HAHAHahhaha.

September 27, 2002
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CiCi~

Maybe you will get to be your supervisor's replacement! How would it feel to be in those shoes?

Get all the education you can, GF.

September 27, 2002
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Ugh - no way jose. I don't want to be the shipping manager, purchasing manager, accountant, quality manager, AND the office manager. Small businesses, especially tech companies, stretch their administrative staff to the limit.

Of course all the tech guys get paid 3x as much as I do to play around chatting all day.

September 30, 2002
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I wouldn't quit. Stick it out... look for more stuff to show your "good" boss about the "bad" supervisor. Just keep piling it on until he finally gets it through his head. Don't give her the satisfaction of your leaving!

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