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December 27, 2002
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yep, it is bothering me but not because I don't trust him. I think he is extremely-perhaps overly- cautious about hurting his kids. We didn't meet on the internet but I am the first serious relationship he has had since the divorce and I do understand his hesitance in bringing me into his kid's lives. I understand to a point.

I'm not sure if I am being selfish at this point for not truly understanding. Shouldn't he be able to have personal calls at home without too much conflict from the kids? Actually, we are not even sure there would be any conflict but he seems afraid to rock the boat in anyway.

there isn't a big age difference-he's 9 years my senior @ 48.

Thanks everyone

December 27, 2002
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Yes, it does sound wierd. No calls to the house? It sounds like you his paramour!

I don't think you are selfish at all. You deserve a reasonable explanation...one that a mature adult would understand.

Secret relationships rarely ever work. Both parties have to be OK with the arrangement with no hopes of it ever changing to something different.

December 27, 2002
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Another thought: Maybe he is not ready for a new relationship and yet he wants one...and he is putting it on the kids to keep you there, but at bay...?

December 27, 2002
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i dont wanna scare u. i first thought ur thread would be about cheating or jealousy. i thought u were scared he would be with some other women in the house or that he was hidding something from u.

December 27, 2002
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I never thought of that, scherza. I know he wants to take it slowly and I'm very ok by that. That's what I want too.

Lisset, my naturally distrustful mind thought about your possible theory but only for a fleeting second. He's really not that type, and, believe me, I know that type. He's a great guy but I really feel low on the totem pole when our relationship can't even be acknowledged and I don't see anything changing in that way for the future.

Thanks a bunch

December 27, 2002
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read the other thread u made.

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