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Thanks SweetAmanda
October 17, 2004
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By the way, the contraband was chronic (weed).

And of course I wish she would change and take me back after I changed. She according to my counselor is BPD and I am now have hit rock bottom for the first time in my life but have been cleaning up my act now for two months.

It took her letting me back into her life 15 days ago for 5 nights then beginning realtions with someone 9 days ago that including a night at his house (4 days ago)with ???? that night and coffee the next morning according to her after I stalked her and confronted her at his house.

Either way, I am a humble man now according to my counselor who had noted last year during marriage counseling that I was egotistical and had tendencies of an alcoholic.

By the way, I avoid calling her now and going by his house. My assumption is she is seeing him like that whether I see it or not.

October 17, 2004
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Hook,

*lol* Here I was thinking the ‘contraband’ was porn or something! But, yes I do know what ‘chronic’ is! =)

So, is this lady your wife, or a girlfriend, or what? Are you going through a divorce? Do you two have any children?

I am so happy that you are cleaning up your act! I know how hard that is. But drugs and drinking and bad relationships really only cloud things all up so that it becomes harder to get better. I’m glad that you see that.

Have you been going to a church? Is your counselor a Christian? Do you have someone to talk to and pray with? Any good friends?
~Amanda~

October 17, 2004
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We divorced 3 months ago. She had an aborion in the first 2 months of dating and a miscarriage 9 months into the marriage (17 months). I have tried to get straight and get her back but last week happened after the week before staying with her 5 nights. She told me how much she loved me and I was looking good and she was proud of me. Then this other guy comes in the picture and I'm a dog, she hates my mother, my brother, my friends and he is soo different and she likes him. She has 2 boys from different fathers.

October 17, 2004
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Hook....

Hmmm. Sorry to say it but sounds like someone you really do not need in your life!

BTW, Welcome!

Sunny

October 17, 2004
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And yes my counselor is a christian and I went to church twice today. I was afraid I might see her there even with this new guy. He asked her out 3 years ago when we first met and she has been cutting his hair every 2 weeks for 3 years. She had a tendency to talk bad about me at work so I suspect he may have reminded her of some of those conversation because between last friday and sunday, her tone and the horrible things she said were brought back into the picture after they were kind of behind us.

October 17, 2004
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Bur Sunnygrl, I love her. I have changed so much for the good for her..

October 17, 2004
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Hook,

Just from what you tell me…I can totally see the BPD! Please just continue to work on yourself and get better. I really don’t think she is able to have healthy relationships. That is, unless she is willing to go to counseling and work on things with you...Oh, and NOT CHEAT on YOU! ~Amanda~

October 17, 2004
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It was not really cheating since we were divorced and she really was avoiding me. I slivered my way back but she did sleep with me and tell me how she loved me and was proud of the changes. But... she never once promised me anything. She just changed on a dime in a 3 day period. But.. I do love her very much and she may be BPD.

October 17, 2004
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Hook,

So are you saying that the only reason you have been changing for the better is for her?

October 17, 2004
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hook, I understand that. And of course you have a right to feel what you do! I was just giving you my honest opinion. If you hope that it works out, then if it does that's great!
Wishing you the best,

Sunny

October 17, 2004
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And I assume this new guy will discover her because he may thinks things are okay but she will be sitting there taking inventory of dislikes until one day and BAMMM!!!

I am 45, attractive but only have been married twice (mid twenties and mid thirties). I have dated alot of ladies and have never seen one like this one. I have dated sexually abused ladies but not one that was sexually abused and possible falls in that 2% of women that just have BPD.

October 17, 2004
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Oh, okay...I think I am starting to understand. So you weren't together at the time. But it still hurt you, right? That would hurt me anyways. I wouldn't want to be with someone who hurts me so much, and might not be able to help it. Do you think you will be able to live with that kind of pain?

October 17, 2004
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Sunnygrl,

I was not upset just pleaded that I love her.

October 17, 2004
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SweetAmanda

Changing for her and for me. I see the bar life and those single players I used to run with and the way they use women. It's sickenig. But I didn't see until see kept bring it up.

October 17, 2004
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We were just testng the waters without making promises. The love words had no bounderies as well as the sex. Am I the only person this happens to?

October 17, 2004
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I understand hook! But I was also thinking what Amanda just asked..If you are changing for her, well thats pretty co-dep. Why should anyone have to change for someone else? Although I do think that changing your lifestyle is to be commended!!!WTG!

Sunny

October 17, 2004
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Well it is sweet that you love her, and yourself enough to change. I really do hope that it works out for you! (((Hugs))) ~Amanda~

October 17, 2004
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Thank you ladies and I appreciate you more that you know. Since stalking her and finding out the truth, I have had to set here and wonder but no stalking. I know enough. But today feels better than yesterday due to church and you two.

So thanks.

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