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July 24, 2002
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July 24, 2002
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Since you already named this thread Test - here ya go:

Codependency Test
Below are some general questions to help you assess whether you have a problem with codependency. This is only a self test; no results are compiled by NCADD - Greater KC.

1. My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by others.

2. My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from others.

3. I allow other people's problems to affect my serenity. My mental attention is often focused on solving their problems or relieving their pain.

4. My mental attention is usually focused on pleasing others. I feel better about myself when I please others.

5. My attention is usually focused on helping others realize that I know better than they know what is best for them.

6. My focus is on protecting others.

7. My self-esteem is bolstered by solving other's problems or relieving their pain.

8. I relinquish my hobbies and interests to become involved in the hobbies and interests of others.

9. I spend my leisure time pleasing and helping others.

10. The appearance of others close to me is a reflection of me.

11. The behavior of people in close relationships is important because I think they are a reflection of me.

12. I am seldom aware of how I feel, but usually think I know how others feel.

13. I show more concern about what others want than about what I want.

14. The dreams I have for my future are linked to others.

15. My fears, anger, and rejection often determines what I say and do.

16. I use giving as a way of securing relationships.

17. My social circle diminishes as I become involved in a close relationship.

18. I put my values aside to maintain relationships.

19. I respect other's opinions and way of doing things more than I do my own.

July 24, 2002
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DEAR SC

I must tell you i am so happy with your prompt response to our need for a codependency support group on line.
There are no groups in my area and it is incredibly hard to host one.
This means the world to me and im sure to many other people who come here struggling with issues of codependency:)

Great job!!!!

July 24, 2002
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Dear SC

Thanks for the prompt response.

July 26, 2002
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I am so glad I have discovered what my problem is. I go through mood swings, temper fits, depression and ruin many relationships with my insecurities I beleive. I have made an appointment to get help. I am dating a wonderful man and I want to get better and have a normal relaqtionship. I read the list of questions to ask myself and OMG!!! It's me..

I do have a question. Can the relstionship I have now still be the same to me after I get help and releive myself of this codependency? Will I see him the same as I do now?
I recognize that I give way too much of myself to get acceptance. Will that change?

Thanks

July 26, 2002
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I suspect HE might not see you the same as he does now! Join the clan!

July 27, 2002
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1. My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by others.
Definitely. I am constantly seeking to be liked as I can only feel like a ‘good’ person if I am liked.

2. My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from others.

Yes, I constantly feel the need to have approval from other people before I like myself.

3. I allow other people's problems to affect my serenity. My mental attention is often focused on solving their problems or relieving their pain.
100% I constantly am involved I at least 4 or 5 dilemmas people have given me because ‘I am good at sorting them out’ for other people maybe, but it kills me.

4. My mental attention is usually focused on pleasing others. I feel better about myself when I please others.
YES. I only feel good when I am pleasing someone else. If I do something for me I feel guilty and hate myself.

5. My attention is usually focused on helping others realize that I know better than they know what is best for them.
No. People come to me for answers but I don’t like to point stuff out to people without them having asked first.

6. My focus is on protecting others.
Absolutely. From age 4 or 5 protecting my sister from hearing my parents argue, aged 12 protecting my mother from abuse, age 16 watching my father have meningitis, age 22 still worry over every aspect of people who are close to me ‘s lives.

7. My self-esteem is bolstered by solving other's problems or relieving their pain.
YES. Absolutely.

8. I relinquish my hobbies and interests to become involved in the hobbies and interests of others.
A little, I tend to see what other people are into and go with the flow.

9. I spend my leisure time pleasing and helping others.
All of it. Well I try to anyway. I have been brought up to.

10. The appearance of others close to me is a reflection of me.
NO.

11. The behavior of people in close relationships is important because I think they are a reflection of me.
Yes. If they are happy I am a good person, if not, I must be a bad person.

12. I am seldom aware of how I feel, but usually think I know how others feel.
I am acutely aware of both how I feel and how others feel. I ignore my feelings though mostly.

13. I show more concern about what others want than about what I want.
Yes. I feel it is more important.

14. The dreams I have for my future are linked to others.
Definitely. I want to achieve the best possible to provide for my family and friends.

15. My fears, anger, and rejection often determines what I say and do.
No. I remain the same outwardly no matter what. Inwardly I change myself.

16. I use giving as a way of securing relationships.
Very much so. I constantly give and was brought up believing you always give, you never ask to receive.

17. My social circle diminishes as I become involved in a close relationship.
No, but only because we share the same friends. However I do not go out as often.

18. I put my values aside to maintain relationships.
Occasionally.

19. I respect other's opinions and way of doing things more than I do my own.
Yes. Unfortunately.

Ok, so what does this mean?

Becca xxx

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