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Tears , tears
August 27, 2006
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cloud nine
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i started crying , one of my very good friend is living tomorrow and that brought
tearsand sadness . I just wondering why do I fall for men who are unavailable or emotionally distant,
I was married for 17 years and i experienced love and commitment but he spent a lot of time in his studio.
we loved each other very much but once my daughter was borne , he felt displaced and changed,

and we fell out of love and then we went trough torment till i left.
and the last 4 years i spend it with somebody with was no available.

what is it that we pursue incomplete relationships? Im an attractive woman,
well-educated .
why do i put up with so much crap from men? why do i fall fo faulty men ? is because i m faulty? is it because im too keen ? too loving? overtolerant?

it is very late at night, time to bed . peaceful night to all.

tomorrow i would stop chasing rainbows .

xx

August 27, 2006
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i think its trying to rescue people, a way to make yourself feel better....alot has to do with low self esteem too, thinking that "I" deserve this type of relationship.

The more love you give to yourself, i think the less crap you will accept from others.

August 28, 2006
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I agree w/ Camer and I also believe that a person could be choosing someone that has the same traits as a parent that didn't give what was needed to the person when that person was a child. I would suggest you getthe book Codependent NO more by Melodie Beattie. I think you'll come to a good understanding after going thru the book.

August 28, 2006
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yes rescuing people maybe but usually is men rescuing me ,or both .but usually im the giver ...

my mother was very critical of me, my dad who i got on with was unavailable , working most of the time.......my family are decent human beings , but i didnt get enough nurturing as a child ..
was in boarding school.
eventually i left home and went to live in another country .

will get the book thank u .

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