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March 10, 2007
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my bf and i so nothing but fight. he yells at me bc i wont have sex with him. it gets me on the verge of cryin everyday. i love him with all my heart but i just cant talk the yelling i want it all to stop but i cant leave him i love him so much, leaving him would kill both me and him. god damn why r relationships so damn complicated. i hate this love thing. he wants to shoot himself everyday bc he hurts me and he knows he does but he wont stop. help me please someone i need advice!

March 10, 2007
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Does he hit besides yell at you? both of them are abuse but if it he also hits you, get out now. If it's just hitting try to get him into some type of counselling and go to counselling yourself so that even if he continues yelling you won't be a victim

and I am sure everyone is sick of heraing me say this, but if the relationship is close enough for sex, it ought to be emotionally close enough for each of you to express feelings outright about sex: when where, how etc./

March 10, 2007
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he doesnt hit me he just yells but i cant take even that. i thought i was stronger that than i cant talk this abuse and the abuse i get at school when im sexually harrassed everyday by other guys. i think i wanna die

March 11, 2007
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But staying with him will kill you too. You are young, you will bounce back even if it does not feel like it will at the moment, you have to believe you will. Once you get out and get better for yourself, only then will you realize how truly bad this is. You deserve better than a guy who treats you like crap. Leaving him would not kill you at all. You'd be saving yourself from a lifetime of abuse. Telling you he will shoot himself is a way to manipulate you into feel sorry for him so that you do stay, which is also abusive. He should be sorry but he should want help, that would be a better answer than to claim to shoot himself frequently. Im sorry you go through this. But to me the only way for you to recover is to get out of this. And why are guys harrassing you at school? Isn't there any protection in school? This is awful and there must be someone you can talk to at school about this. Get help for this part as well.

March 11, 2007
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Emopenguin,

Verbal abuse and emotional abuse have just as serious an effect on your health as physical abuse. Whether he hits you or not is irrelevent...what he's doing is making you feel bad about yourself and thats just not on. Relationships don't have to be like that. Leave him and find someone who appreciates you more. Its sounds like he has issues which he'll have to deal with on his own before he is capable of being in a happy stable relationship.

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March 13, 2007
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i cant leave him i love him well atleast i think i do... and yea there is a resource officer at school but hes so old that any of them can take them down. i feel so worthless that i think i may wanna just shut myself off from the world. but idk what to do anymore i need better friends the sex offenders and rapists.

March 13, 2007
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Ok, I read the thread but I don't understand.

Why are you crying?

Why do you not want to have sex with him?

And how come you think less about yourself that you would put up with what he is doing to you?

And why will it kill the both of you if both of you is not happy but want to leave the relationship?

I don't understand.

Nappy!

March 20, 2007
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i wasnt talkin bout having sex with my boyfriend.. i was talkin about all the people that assult me and touch me in very uncomforable places during school hours. but yea me and my bf worked things out and now were happier than ever. and i tole him im gonna have his baby. well yea if me and him did split i would be so crushed i wouldnt know what to do. i would be so lost i would prob commit suicide. i really cant live life without him. and were gettin married when i graduate and turn 18. i really think life is going to be better for me from now on.

March 20, 2007
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are you pregnant?

if not, please consider holding off.

you see, if you would commit suicide if he left you...where would that leave a baby? without a mom?

please wait until you know for certain that he is going to be around forever...before getting pregnant.

if you are pregnant...seriously consider some therapy...cuz being a mom is a very difficult job...and if you bring that baby into the world and he doesn't stay around, you are going to need to be as healthy as you can be...mentally and physically. And committing suicide would only leave the baby without a mom.

March 21, 2007
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Hello ,
i have a son he & i love each other very much, ..If you are pregnant have some therapy,,,, i think it can always help.
Especially now.... 🙂 3i`s

March 23, 2007
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Dear Emo. I remember you so well. And I have not heard from you in a very long time. I think it is terrible that feeling you have that people touch you this way. It totally freezes you to a point where you cannot move or stand up or really know what to do so you keep it inside. OK, you love your BF so much, that is awesome, and you can stay with him as long as it is possible, forever, but since it is forever, you might want to wait a bit longer for a baby, because you want this time to be all about you right now, cuz you are young and free, and young love is so wonderful so enjoy it while you can. But you also need to look out for yourself too and not have everything be about your BF too. He is part of the package but not the whole package. Down the road, a little baby will bring joy but also hug responsibility. So have the freedom now of enjoying each other, having fun and then a baby. That is so cool you will get married right after high school. Young people can have a happy married life. But dont rush everything. You have plenty of time for a baby and jobs ...enjoy being a teen while you can. It is very short lived and being adult is a very long time. Almost too long if you ask me. High school is the best ever. But I am not liking the idea of boys touching you this way. Can you talk a school counselor? They dont have a right to touch you. If you cannot speak for yourself, talk to somebody. I know what it is like to freeze up. It is very tough. Id like to have a talk to these boys, but I cannot. Maybe somebody can help you, if you reach out.

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