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tc66- Happy (- - th ) Birthday
August 26, 2006
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Seems to me we're supposed to having a party tonight, right? Someone is turning (--)? I'll never tell.

Hope it's a good one and a memorable one. Blowing out some candles for ya (boy, there sure are alot- hahahaha, just kidding!!)

Wishing you the best.

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August 26, 2006
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Happy birthday TC... I think I can figure out how many candles are on that cake... From what I remember, we have close to the same number. We don't date ff's for nothing. FIRE!!!

August 27, 2006
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY ((((TC))))!!!!!!!

August 27, 2006
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((((TC)))) Happy & Blessed Birthday!!! Wishing you the best yet to come in love and life! Thanks sweetie for your replies to me.

August 27, 2006
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HI TC, happy b=day, I remember how old you are today but I won't tell. It is no big deal what people make it out to be. I hope it is good one!
(((hugs to you))). TAJ

August 27, 2006
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Happy Birthday my dear friend! I hope you have a wonderful day; surrounded by people who love you--treat yourself like the queen of the world that you are.

I am so grateful for you, and all of the good words and thoughts that you've shared with all of us--you have a gift for understanding.

Love you, TC...2b

August 27, 2006
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Happy b'day TC, i'm coming over for your b'day party, lets celebrate!!!!!!

You're very worthy of this site, with all your great feedback & wisdom!

(((camer)))

August 27, 2006
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Happy Birthday to You and many more.

August 27, 2006
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Happy Birthday, TC!!! I hope all your hopes and dreams for "your special day" come true!

Love, Plz~

August 27, 2006
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Happy _blank_ Birthday, sweetheart! Hope it's better than you dreamed and you get a great sendoff into the next year. Love you huge!

TraCo

August 27, 2006
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happy birthday!!!!!where do i send the bills?im sure you will get plenty of cards with cash!!

August 27, 2006
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The Itsy Bitsy Spider climbed up the birthday cake,

"Itsy" quickly learned that he'd made a big mistake.

He climbed up on a candle before the cake was cut.

Then Itsy Bitsy Spider he burned his little butt.

Happy Birthday. Hope it was all you wanted it to be. 🙂

August 28, 2006
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Thank you, Thank you, Thank you for the birthday wishes, my dear friends!!!!!

I honestly had a nightmare build-up to the "big day"... filled with stress, tension, anguish and anxiety! Partly because I am not happy about turning ffff.... ffffoo....ffffff... (Gosh, I can't say it, but you know what I mean!!) and partly because it turned into a battle of wills between friends and family who made it MORE about what THEY wanted to do for me and LESS about what it is that I may actually wanted!

It's a long, ugly story but the bottom line was that Saturday night was the night that was planned for some friends to get together for dinner (because I screwed up the Friday night Poker thing by having plans)... There was about 10 people going out to eat and the day before... it hit me!!! This is MY DAY! I should have exactly who I want there... so I called my friend that was planning it and I said "I want my children to come out to dinner with me"... so they did! They loved it! We went to a Japanese restaurant and they had never seen the way the chefs cook right at the table and do the whole fancy performance with the knives. They were totally entertained and it was really special for me to see the looks on their faces as they watched in amazement!

The next day, my family came over, along with a couple of my closest friends and we had a little cookout (well, cook-IN since it was pouring rain out), but it was really nice. I had a very special day.

FF called me first thing in the morning to sing Happy Birthday to me. We talked for quite a while and it turned out that the friend of mine who called to invite him out Saturday night was not very nice to him. She emphasized several times that this dinner was a "couples" thing... that if he cared for me at all, that he'd be there and that all my friends think he is a loser and this was his chance to prove to EVERYONE that he is not. It went on and on but the bottom line is that he did not feel welcome. He felt like the microscope would have been on him and that it would have been MUCH more about HIM being there than about ME... so he told her that he could not make it because it would cause too much drama. So, she told him off and alienated him even further. Was she right?? I think in some ways she was, but I wish she hadn't used THIS opportunity to teach him a lesson. I wish she would have just let it go FOR ME so that it could have flowed naturally and not had soooo much riding on his presence or absence. You know what I mean?

Anyway... that was it. I am embarking on a new decade of my life and I realize that it can be whatever I choose it to be. I feel (and most say that I LOOK) like I'm 30 so I'm just not going to think about the number (that's been totally freaking me out!).... 40... There I said it!!!!! That wasn't so bad!!

I am forty and fabulous!!!!! Ahhhhhh!!!! That felt good!!!!!!

Thanks again for the wishes guys. I feel blessed to have you all in my life!!!

Much love,

TC

August 28, 2006
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TC,

I had NO internet connection until today, so please accept my late happy birthday wishes!!!

I am glad you figured out that you should bring the kids, I bet that made it all the more special.

I am sorry your friend put FF under the microscope - I think he was right on some level - that she was putting too much pressure on him - but at the same time, he could have easily gone and just stayed under the radar. His own insecurities got in the way I suppose.

It doesn't sound like it was a total bust....I hope that FF comes around and takes you out for something special, one on one - instead of using your friend's behaviour as the excuse to get out of doing ANYTHING - which is sounds like may be the case.

Happy late bday and best wishes for many more.

August 28, 2006
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How ironic, TC! The new guy and my friends gave me a surprise party at a hibachi grill. Our lives are mirrored once more! LOL

Glad you figured out how to make the day be about you and have a good time.

I have to say (and I HATE to say) I can see FF's point of view on this one. You're friend is entitled to her point of view, and she can give him grief for your sake all she wants, but she didn't need to turn your party into HER agenda for him. I really don't get this friend of yours. Who is she? Why is she so inappropriately invested?

Glad you had a great birthday. I understand the NEXT milestone is the MOST fun, if you approach it with the right attitude. Maybe you should start working on that now.

Love ya

TraCo

August 29, 2006
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I agree that FF most likely used my friends' behavior as an excuse to justify his absence from my party... although, he called me several times over the weekend and I really do believe that he would have liked to have been there with me. I'll admit that if he REALLY REALLY wanted to be there, he would have come, regardless of the tension and drama... and he didn't. I also know a lot of that has to do with his own guilty feelings for the way he has treated me in the past. He is not strong enough to face certain people that he knows disapprove of him (and us).

He called me yesterday morning to say "Happy 40, plus 1"... He said something about wanting to make this year special for me... I brushed it off (I've HEARD it before). We hung up and several hours later, I rec'd a text message from him that said "T, I am SORRY for everything. I'm sorry for all the hurt and pain I've caused you. I truly am. I'm also sorry that I've had my head up my a$$ for so long. I'm beginning to see and feel things better now. I just wanted to let you know that."

I did not respond (and that was 24 hours ago). I think that shows tremendous progress on my part. Normally, I would have jumped all over that bait and probably been out trying on wedding gowns already! I'm kidding about the wedding gown thing, but seriously, I am taking it for what it is... WORDS!!! They are only words. Speaking them is the easy part!! You know, I do love this man (and all of his baggage)... I don't want to be hurt by him again so I am keeping my cards close to the vest and I am not doing or saying ANYTHING until he SHOWS me something that PROVES he is serious.

He needs to step up... BIG TIME! I know I'll probably get a lot of flack from you guys who are tired of the roller coaster and my apparent inability to let go of my feelings for him. Although I have not let go of him... I also have not "let myself go" (meaning I have not done anything to compromise my self-esteem/self respect). I have remained strong in my conviction that I WILL NOT see him casually and will NOT allow him to treat me with disrespect. I have been quite aloof and will not go back to limbo-land. If he wants me in his life, he will do what he needs to do or I will not be there. I really mean it too! I cannot go back... I'm too old!!

My life is almost half over! (OUCH!!!) I'm going to do my best to make the absolute best of it, with or without FF. I have let go of trying to control his feelings, his actions and trying to make his time-table match mine.

Things will work out the way they are supposed to. I trust in that... and I'll accept whatever is to come.

Thanks for listening,

TC

August 29, 2006
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TC, my gut said the same thing as I read what he texted you.

Sounds like TEXTBOOK bait - my ex threw it out all the time....in exactly those same words (amazing how they all are so close in resemblance)?

Glad you saw it for what it was and didn't take the bait.

Maybe, YOU will make this a year to remember!!! you don't need him for it.

August 29, 2006
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Thanks Rising... I know I don't need him. I am actually very excited about the coming year! I am taking the children on vacation in October. I've been planning it for over a year. We are going to Disney World for 4 days and then on a 3 day cruise to the Bahamas!!!!!

It is approaching very quickly and I'm soooo looking forward to it!!

I have a really good life... nice friends, good family, a steady job, healthy/bright/kind/funny children, a beautiful home in a nice town and good genes (which keep me looking 10 years younger than I am!!) and a generally optimistic outlook on life... so, FF???? Nah!! I don't NEED him... I wouldn't mind him getting his head out of his a$$, but if he doesn't... it will not devastate me! I'm ok, with or without him.

TC

August 29, 2006
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tc66,

I'm sorry I missed your Birthday.

All the best to you! Don't take the bait and have great vacation with your children. You not only don't need him, but also don't want him, I assume? 😉

August 29, 2006
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Ahhh...TC, I haven't been here for a while...so I'm out be a few days for your birthday...but I hope you had a great day and I hope this year all your dreams come true!

((((((((My lovely friend TC66)))))))

August 29, 2006
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TC....

You cracked me up with the wedding dress comment. LOL So true, so true.

BUT you didn't bite. You're doing great and I'm so proud of you.

I have found with the Snowblower that they really come at you from all angles when we STOP doing what they are accustomed to, don't they?

It almost makes ya feel bad for 'em.

Anyway, I just wanted to say how proud of I am of you. Keep up the good work.

Love,
Lolli

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