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TAWANDA!!!!
November 6, 2002
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I don't know why Im yelling it I just am, and IM not sure if I spelled it right either. :-))

Yes its from Fried Green Tomatoes one of my favorite movies. I guess it makes me feel like we can accomplish anything if we really want to? That were surrounded by friends from all over the world? We can be who we want to be and not have to explain ourselves as to why? But as long as were honest with ourselves and not hurting anyone in the process.

I know IM not a tribal sister but I do consider myself one of the regular postees here and a friend to all. :-)))

Smile God Loves You.............

November 6, 2002
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Thank You Blondie,
I will be emailing you soon.

Bel

November 6, 2002
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some of you ..you can tell the people that have been here a while...they use all the lingo...are ass wipes...hiding from your parents...hiding from your siblings...husbands...etc...you are cowards!! Say what you have to say to THEM... NOT TO US and get on with your own life...somehow i feel that none of you have even begun to appreciate a moment in your own lives...i hate wimpy people...and most of all i can't stand people that can't stand behind their name...especially on line...i am irish lass..i was cinder..for 1 or 2 months..i will always be irish lass on this site...do you know what my friends say about me quote, " you are the most trustworthy person i know" and I am..i have heart..but it has been sorely missing on this site...oh, yea, we talk mundane things like having our herbal tea, takiing our walks, and you know what really astounds me is the totatl lack of loyalty and sincerity...i don't feel it here...i know i will be attacked ...i don't care..maybe in some line i will see a truth, a loyal soul...Syqg , you are one of them..Blond is, ginger, Pam , artist. silence where ever the heck you are, Cici, you are mother,Molly, since the beggining, and if i have left anyone out i am sorry...eve, gypsy, tinker, sparkle, ...all of you, but i dislike people that hide...something that is still redeeming about this blasted site...i know one thing about me..i have friends ...all over the place..i can call on any one of them...and they will be there...so the question is...what am i doing here ??? I will save you the answer...I feel alone...

November 6, 2002
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Sorry, Bel, i meant this to be an indepedent thread. Didn't meant to intrude on yours...I loved Fried Green Tomatos...did yo 'all notice how i spelt that sugar...you say tomatoes...i say tomatos...i don't really matter to me..BEL..you are a tribal sister to me 'cause of your heart me' darlin...i pick and choose people on this site i like...and I am very fussy who i choose...it is only natural...we all have our own caste systems...here it is how my intuition dictates to me about someone...how I
feel instinctively as I read their words on or in "cyberspace"...but if they don't ring true across the board..then I will ignore postings..

November 6, 2002
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Awww. God love your heart, blond, if anyone can't see the good...then to hell with them...my favorite is:

Lean on me, when you're not strong and i'll be your friend, i'll help you carry on, for...it won't be long before i'm gonna need someone to lean on..you just call on me sister, when you need a friend, we all need someone to lean on..you just might have a problem that i'll understand...

I am sure you know the song..i love it...thanks..Blond..i was just crying about something i lost...i needed you. As always ..somehow you are there. A kindred spirit...i hate to disappoint anyone reading this..it is friendship even in cyberspace..and one other thing lacking not only here but in life, a friend's loyalty.

November 6, 2002
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See, i needed that song...thanks..you just knew...true friends always do...Love ya' Blond..some people have a problem with that word ..i don't. Not when i meant it..thanks for being there as always

November 7, 2002
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Irishlass,
IM not sure if I understand your post much but thats me. First off IM a wannabe, I always wanted to be popular, loved, needed, wanted, and so on. I had a rough childhood and teen years so I grew up without love and feeling secure and had alot of abuse. So I became an introvert, shy, co dependent and so on. I have come a long way in my life but I guess some feelings will never leave me. Such as wanting to be wanted and counted with the people that I think are worthy of it. This site did help me in the beginning but I can't say it is helping me now. To me its more or less a place where friends can come and chat and trade things that happen in their daily life. Sometimes there are certain people that get on here to make trouble but then they are gone as fast as they came. I almost always stay in the backgroung, not because I am sneaky or anything like that but because I am a very quiet person and really dont have much to offer. I am not a mean, sneaky, awful person just a loner. But I guess I better crawl back into my shell and dissaper again. Im sorry for anything I may have said or done to you or anyone else.

Bel

November 7, 2002
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OK, kids, I know that ya'll are young and sensitive--and it IS difficult to understand the tone of voice behind a line of print--but I read this thread several times and I caught no hint of anyone putting anyone down--or telling them to leave--or even saying anything negative.

Bel, come here honey, it's ok--no one dislikes you for ANYTHING you've said--let me be the first on this thread to say--in the nicest possible way--honest--that it's YOU pushing US away---and that's OK--maybe you've grown enough from your time here that you don't need to post anymore--and that would be GREAT--but if it's just the negative voices in your head driving you away--that's a big step back and I'm asking you to reconsider. The following idea has served me well for years--so I'm sharing it here--you get out of something whatever you put into it--simple but true--so if you still feel the need to walk away,I pray that it's moving towards something better not back to something worse.
Love ya--Artist:)

November 7, 2002
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I guess I did read and take it the wrong way. I have trouble understanding at times what I am reading like its right over my head.

Thank You Blondie and Artist for clarifing things for me. 🙂

Blondie Im hungry and can use that soda and bread if you still have some? :-))

Artist I am overly sensitive and yes I do tend to push people away especially when they get to close. Or at least I used to be that way and I can also get to close and wear my heart on my sleeve. I have grown alot though in the last few years so I understand now after rereading the post over and over. :-))

And IM not a young one IM older prolly than you. :-)))

Thank You Both for taking the time to explain things to me.

Take Care
Bel

November 7, 2002
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hey irish, my sentiments exactly. That's why I was considering getting the heck outta dodge for a while. It makes me feel insecure when people aren't at least making some kind of effort to project at least one identity, even if it's fabricated.

I'm not saying that it's evil, but if you were on some other board, more light hearted, like "Elvis Fans" or whatever, hell, anyone can be as many alter egos as they like and it won't hurt anyone.

But coming in here under an assumed name because you fear repurcussions, or want free reign to hurl abuse at people who come here emotionally needy, fragile, and in pain....well, that puts my knickers in a twist. I'm sorry. It's not nothing, it's hurting! Mebbe I overreact. I don't think I am, tho.

Admittedly, I've considered posting some of my issues under an assumed name. But I felt dirty doing that, weird, I dunno. When I used to go to raves, my friends would wear wigs and go under assumed names sometimes. I tried to do it but just burst out laughing at myself and my pitiful attempts.

Like Popeye said, "'Ay yam what Ay yam what Ay yam.."

November 7, 2002
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Ny wee darlin bel, you can be anything you want to be and you are surrounded by friends...if in any way i may have offended your sensitive spirit, i had no intention of doing no such thing...look back over my responses to you...i always respected and heard your thoughts with total appreciation and respect...i admire your patience and endurance with your life...i never hurt intentionally, like some, only when righteous, cornered, or defending what i feel is right. My heart is good...or at least seeking it. Sincerely care about you. Please tell me what i said to inadvertently offend you...i need to hear it as much as you need to say it..Don't be afraid you won't hurt my feelings. I will like you no matter what.

November 7, 2002
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And guess what?? I got CHOCOLATE , TO HECK with that herbal stuff and bread, you and i will have a sugar high together...

Cici, you never overreact, and don't ever change your nik, it would be for me like saying good-bye to someone I thought had gone..but hadn't..that would be sad and just confusing...See what i love about Blond, anyone reading this thread maybe you have to look deeper..Artist, thank you..this is what this thread is all about...when one is being misunderstood the other steps in to help...at least for me.

November 8, 2002
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This is what I love best--friendship--and fattening food and drink--let the game's begin!!
Artist:)

November 8, 2002
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Irishlass, it was not you but me who misunderstood as I sometimes do. A counsler once told me IM conceited because I think everyone is thinking of me or looking at me. I never thought of it that way I was always shy and thinking I was not as good as everyone else. I read this from your post:

some of you ..you can tell the people that have been here a while...they use all the lingo...are ass wipes...hiding from your parents...hiding from your siblings...husbands...etc...you are cowards!! Say what you have to say to THEM... NOT TO US and get on with your own life...somehow i feel that none of you have even begun to appreciate a moment in your own lives...i hate wimpy people.

See I think of myself at times as wimpy and hiding in the background so I took your words to heart because I guess that is what I think of myself at times.

But Thank You for writing me those nice sweet words that you did. I can tell your a very warmhearted sweet caring woman and Irish to boot. I love the Irish people and everything about them. I go to the Irish Festival here in the bay area when it comes once a year. To truly visit Ireland would be a dream come true or Scotland....would love to find me a BIG Irish Man to call my own. :-)))

Blondie love chocolate but need to lose weight so I will just sip tea this time.

Hugs to you all
Bel

November 8, 2002
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Bel, i think what you are upset about is the fact that i never put your name in with the people I felt were part of this site...i never meant to exclude you...you came in later..i have been here for a year..i possess nothing but respect for you...in moments of aggitation we just use the names we are familiar with ..you have no idea..we get caught up in our explanations...if you think for one minute that i don't value you ...you are wrong...you are a strong woman..I an in awe of you and your life choices and i feel your pain in relation to your son and read your thread with much compassion and understanding...sometimes i just check in..don't always respond...because i am on the run now..used to...but, know this, in no way, in my mind are you not important..on this site you are.

November 9, 2002
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SHIT..BLOND..IT IS 12: 01, NO KIDDING!!lol

November 12, 2002
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Dear Irishlass,
Thank you for your message, I think you are right about feeling left out. Your very astute to pick up on that. :-)))

I know you never meant any harm to me and I know that it was my co dependent feelings showing. I always think things are directed at me personally.

I also think your a very nice sweet caring lady and one who is full of information too!

Most of the time I just enjoy sitting back and reading these posts. I rarely answer or respond as IM not comfortable giving my opinions, ideas and so on. But that is me and nothing else.

My son is still not working and does not bother to look for a job but sure does want alot. His girlfriend and I are paying all the bills and feeding us and him and three kids. At times our money does not stretch as far as we need it too. My son demands alot and yells alot but I think its because he feels useless since he is not contributing at the moment. I pray he finds something soon so that we all can relax and be happier and enjoy our life alot more.

Bel

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