Avatar

Please consider registering
guest

sp_LogInOut Log In sp_Registration Register

Register | Lost password?
Advanced Search

— Forum Scope —




— Match —





— Forum Options —





Minimum search word length is 3 characters - maximum search word length is 84 characters

sp_TopicIcon
Talking about rape for the first time
March 26, 2000
4:43 pm
Avatar
Samantha20
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Hi. I've never talked about something that happened almost 2 years ago and I really want to just have someone hear me out and tell me what I should do now...move on, talk more about it, what?! I just need advice.

March 26, 2000
11:54 pm
Avatar
WillieDe
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 29, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Samantha20:
Rape is a hard subject to talk about. But living with the experience locked up inside is much worse. If you have a story to tell, then tell it and tell it over and over again until you are able to find peace within youself. That may take a long time. Don't give up and don't stuff it.

March 27, 2000
7:53 am
Avatar
janes
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

And you may want to consider telling it to a professional as well as those of us "good herted souls" here. We are already on your side but we are not professionals.

Talking it out is a great first step tho'.

March 27, 2000
10:04 am
Avatar
Samantha20
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Go to "CAlling Samantha" for my story

March 27, 2000
11:26 am
Avatar
Cici
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 24, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Samantha,

I experienced something similar, and I didn't know whether I was raped or not. But after talking to a therapist I realized that if you feel uncomfortable and violated, it's sexual assault. I did actually say no, once faintly, and then I cried throught the rest of the experience.

When I lost my virginity, I was also forced into sex. I was actually dating the guy and he got me really drunk and I remember laying there and hurting and feeling naseous, but being unable to move or talk.

I didn't discuss this for some years. I tried to put it out of my mind, tried to forget. But what happens when you do this is that you learn how to erect thick walls aroundyourself. You learn to distance yoursef from people who have the potential to hurt you in the same way. Your body reacts to your mental state to protect you. This is why a lot of rape victims experience memory loss in areas of their lives sometimes unrelated to the incident.

The result of not talking the issue out is that you'll develop other problems. I developed an anxiety disorder and had problems with drug abuse for about a year until I started therapy.

Talk about it. Talk about your feelings and reactions. When you can think about the issue without feeling upset, disturbed, anxious or unhappy, you will be better.

March 28, 2000
3:56 pm
Avatar
jace
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

To : samantha20

Hang in their, and if you can talk to someone you trust, and ask them to go with you to go and talk to a professional. If you can't due that, stay in touch here with the rest of us.

March 28, 2000
6:30 pm
Avatar
Samantha20
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 27, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

Thanks Jace..I will try to talk about it more; I just don't think I am ready to talk about it face-to-face with someone..but, in time I will.
Samantha20

April 8, 2000
5:41 pm
Avatar
redstick
New Member
Members
Forum Posts: -1
Member Since:
September 30, 2010
sp_UserOfflineSmall Offline

I just found this site today, so I may be a little late in responding. Here is my story.

I am 41, and was raped at 12. It was not acknowledged by my family until I was 31 and suffering from major depression. It messed up my life.

So my advice would be to tell it, over and over again for as long as it takes. It will be hard, and it will hurt...but keep doing it. Experience taught me that keeping it inside was like filling the garbage can. Eventually it would begin to overflow. This overflow led to a major depression for me, one where i could not take care of myself or my children. SO PLEASE, TALK ABOUT IT.

I have been talking for 10 years, and am now finally beginning to see the light. I have a long way to go, but I have come so far.

redstick

Forum Timezone: UTC -8

Most Users Ever Online: 247

Currently Online:
47 Guest(s)

Currently Browsing this Page:
1 Guest(s)

Top Posters:

onedaythiswillpass: 1134

zarathustra: 562

StronginHim77: 453

free: 433

2013ways: 431

curious64: 408

Member Stats:

Guest Posters: 49

Members: 109280

Moderators: 5

Admins: 3

Forum Stats:

Groups: 8

Forums: 74

Topics: 38532

Posts: 714177

Newest Members:

Batterywdm, Vortexcvw, ujhzDazy, luzzk18, concettavh69, toriDazy

Moderators: arochaIB: 1, devadmin: 9, Tincho: 0, Donn Gruta: 0, Germain Palacios: 0

Administrators: admin: 21, ShiningLight: 572, emily430: 29

Copyright © 2019 MH Sub I, LLC. All rights reserved. Terms of Use | Privacy Policy | Cookie Policy | Health Disclaimer