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Taking Care of Myself - part 2
November 29, 2004
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Hey guys..How's everyone? how was your holiday?
Well I just got back to work today, I've had a few days off..to relax and regroup..My Thanksgiving was great..I spent it with my kids and family..I don't get along with my family that well but I like spending time with my kids..my youngest daughter is 25 yrs old and she announced she is getting married and expecting a baby..it was a shock to us all..but I'm very happy for her..
My surgery went ok, I was in alot of pain afterwards..I'm still moving slow and I'm kind of stiff, sore..
I went to a meeting last Friday and I will go to one tonite..I have got to take care of my spirital,emotional, and mental state... my meetings do that for me..
Just wanted to check in and see how all you guys are doing..and to let you know I'm doing fine..thank you all for being here for me..Angel1

November 29, 2004
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(((angel1))) welcome back and I hope you recover ok with your surgery. And congrats for your daughter on marriage & baby coming along, best of luck with your meetings, aren't they great!!!! and please be easy on your body as you are recovering, take things slow. ((((camer))))

November 29, 2004
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angel1
Good to hear from you and glad your feeling better. Glad to hear also your meetings are helping you. Take it easy for awhile so that you can not only heal your body but your mind as well. Take care.

~~fairy~~

November 29, 2004
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I'm so glad that you are doing better Angel. I feel bad because I promised to try to keep your other thread going and where you could find it. I don't post very often any more and it completely slipped my mind. Please forgive me for not following through to do this for you.

Congrats on your daughter's upcoming wedding and new baby. You have a lot to look forward to and it is good that you are going back to your meetings and taking care of your own personal needs as well.

Take care. Love, TS

December 1, 2004
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Thanks guys..nice to know I got such good friends..I love all the positive feedback..very uplifting..I went to my Dr. last nite so he could take the stitches out..he says I'm doing very good..I still feel a little stiff..but I'm feeling so much better..I was in alot of pain the 1st week..on Monday I went to my meeting I needed positve energy..Just want to say thank you to all of you for being here for me...You guys are great...Angel1

December 3, 2004
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Hey guys..What's new? Well it was to good to be true my husband finally quit his job..I leave for work before he does so he has to ride his bike, he works about 15min. from our house, but he says it's getting to cold to ride his bike and I said it's up to you do what you want..I knew it was a matter of time he's been complaining alot about work..I'm grateful for the time he stayed..but he just thinks he can do whatever he wants..and if he's tired of working he just doesn't..I have never lived like that, I was taught that bills have to get paid..food has to be put on the table..there are just somethings that need to get get done..he is very different..he would never leave me because he knows that I take care of my stuff..and without me he has nothing..sometimes I wish he would go..but I know he won't..I'm not trying to sound like I'm all that..I just know there are certain things that need to get done to live a decent life..and I try my best to do it..At some point I will have enough of him..till then I will continue to take care of me and do the things I need to do for me..I grateful you guys are here for me..Angel1

December 6, 2004
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Hey guys..What's new? Me well not much other than the fact I'm tired..I could fall asleep right know..I have not been sleeping well..and I pay for it during my work hours..I will go home and take a nap before my meeting tonite..got to take care of me..hope everyone is doing well..Angel1

December 7, 2004
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Hey guys..How's everyone today? Me I feel so much better than yesterday..I went home and took a nap..then I went to a meeting..just gotta do the things I need to do for me..I always feel so much better..My day is just about over..I've been kind of busy today..Hope everyone has a good evening..take care..Angel1

December 8, 2004
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Hey guys, What's new? as for me not much..just getting through my day..trying to stay focused..I'm feeling better from my surgery..still haven't gotten all my feeling back in my stomach area but it's getting better each day..I'm happy with the results so far..hope I stay this way..I'm trying to eat better..I just want to stay positive about my size..I love it right know..hope everyone enjoys there day..take care..Angel1

December 8, 2004
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((hi Angel))) hopefully you are well rested....gosh, sorry i missed your posts from the past few days. Angel, do you feel ok that your hubby just up and out quits his job, an now you
have to provide...I mean, he is capable of working right?? and everyone needs to have money to buy food, pay for living, clothing, etc...doesn't he have any ambition??
I do hope things work out well for you.

If you don't mind me asking, did you get some type of surgery done to
your stomach?? cosmetic reasons or something internal??? just curious about your last post.

Glad you go to your meetings, and glad you posted, ((sending lotsa hugs and support)))

December 9, 2004
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Hey guys..Yes Camer I had lipo-suction on my stomach area about 3 weeks ago..it was painful and I'm just starting to feel normal..but I'm very happy with the results..I pray I stay looking this way..I was scared and not sure of going through with it but I'm very happy I did..as for my husband it doesn't surprise me he quit his job..I pray he does something with himself but I'm just grateful the Lord has blessed me with a very good job..I can take care of my bills at home..I had my home before we were married..I pray he will one day be more responsible but I leave it in God's hands..I'm 46 yrs. old and I do the things I need to do to take care of me..what my husband does for himself that's up to him..I'm grateful to have this understanding today..it makes my life alot easier to deal with..getting angry because he doesn't do the things he should be doing does me no good..I like to look at the bright side..I'm in good health..I have a relationship with God..my kids are very responbible and I don't have to worry about them..I have a nice home..I have a good job..great boss..a new car..great grandkids..my husband is a good man..he just needs to grow up in a few areas..for all this I'm gratefull..and when I do get upset I take it to God and he reminds me about what I do have..Glad to be in recovery...Angel1

December 13, 2004
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I am glad to be in recovery as well!
I recently joined a Coda group. Wow!
It's Great. I like how it helps me stay focused on taking care of me.
Having no control over others. Just Me.

December 14, 2004
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Hey guys..Glad to here from you mj..Working on ourselves and putting ourselves 1st is no easy task..but today I make a very big effort to do this..and it makes me feel good..not everyone agrees but thats ok..I'm no good for no one if I don't put myself 1st. Well is everyone ready for Christmass..I'm as ready as I'll ever be..I put up my decorations last week-end..these days just fly by..into another year before we know it..Life has a way of just slipping away..I grateful to be able to enjoy each and everyday and to remember that tomorrow is not promised..I use to live my life without even giving the day a thought..today I am very different and for this I'm truely grateful...Angel1

December 14, 2004
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Gratitude helps to change the focus when one is feeling negative. Our 12 step program works if we work the steps.

I am all ready for Christmas! I have enjoyed the daily progress. Enjoying life moment to moment.

December 15, 2004
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thanks mj..you sound so healthy..working on ourselves does that..makes us look good, sound good, feel good..what more could we ask for..life is a blessing..Angel1

December 16, 2004
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Hey guys..What's up?..Not much with me..just trying to get through my day..sometimes it just drags..I plan on stopping by and visiting my mom tonite..I haven't been over there in about a week..I like to stop by and just see how she's doing..I haven't been getting over there as much as I would like but I'm just starting to feel my old self since the surgery..so hopefully I will be on my old schedule with her soon..Hope everyone is doing well..I will check in with you tomorrow..Angel1

December 17, 2004
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Hey guys..another week gone by..it's Friday..I started wrapping Christmas gifts last nite I did half of them and will finish up this weekend..I plan on going to my meeting tonite..do something for me..then I might go to the mall since it's almost Christmas..and fish up my list..I plan on being off work the last week of Dec. just to relax..hope everyone has a great week-end..shop till you drop..Angel1

December 20, 2004
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Hey guys..How's everyone? Me I'm doing ok..I got all my wrapping done..was able to get to 2 meeting this week-end..needed them..always grateful for recovery..last nite my husband asked me why do I love him? I've been asked this question before from others but this was the 1st time from him..when I met my husband we became friends and didn't date till 2 yrs later..I have never been friends 1st always just got involved without getting to know the other person..and even with my husband after being married to him for almost 3 yrs. there was still so much I didn't know about him..being friends made us closer..and we always connected spiritally..I just felt we were meant to be..although he has many issues to work through as we all do..I felt it was not my place to judge so I went with my heart..I didn't look at the signs even though I seen them..I love the person that he is..he is carefree..he does what he can for me..he doesn't let very many people close to him (I'm like that too)..we never really argue..we get along great..he never yells or calls me names..I have never had this before..although he doesn't carry his end of finacial responsiblity he is great with me as a person..I have had other relationships and the man did everything for me finacially but he treated me like crap..the relationships never lasted..I don't know how long my husband and I will be together but I do know today that I have a man that doesn't verbally or phyically abuse me.. there are areas that do need alot of work in our relationship but I'm very happy with him in most areas..I pray he gets help one day..although this may not be what another would look for in a man this works for me because more than anything else in life I want to be treated good as a person my father and many of my relationships I had in my past were very abusive but today I do have someone in my life that treats me good as a person and I love him for this..Angel1

December 21, 2004
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I enjoyed reading what you love about your husband. I am glad that you shared this with us.
Happy Holidays Angel!

December 21, 2004
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Thank you mj..So are you ready for Christmas? I am..I will enjoy my time off work..last nite I went to my meeting I felt so good afterwards..I'm so grateful to have a place to go that makes me feel so good..I pray everyone finds recovery..Angel1

December 21, 2004
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Angel, I am excited for Christmas this year. Every day has been a pleasurable process.

I went to a very unhealthy meeting last Thursday. I won't be going back to such a toxic environment. There was no format, lots of crosstalk, and I got hurt. I discussed it with my therapist/counselor yesterday and he gave me permission to never go back. I am trusting myself on this one. I love the twelve step program but found out not all meetings are safe places for recovery.

December 22, 2004
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Yes I must remember it's principles above personalities..not everyone is in program for recovery..
I have learned this the hard way..just like everything else..
I just know what I need to do for me there are times I have to make certain decisions to keep my serenity and I do..today I can do this for myself..it's just a part of taking care of ourselves..and I'm grateful to understand this today..there was a time in my life if I felt uneasy about something or someone I went back for more or didn't say anything about it..today if I don't feel good about something I share about it with people and try to work through it..then let it go..working on me and taking care of me has not come easy but today I do it because I want to be healthy...Angel1

December 23, 2004
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Hey guys..have a Merry Christmas and happy holiday..my day is almost over and I won't be back till Tuesday..I thank you all for being here for me and will say a special prayer for you all..Angel1

December 24, 2004
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(((((((((((((((((Angel)))))))))))))))

Have a Special Holiday and keep working the steps! They work if you work em.

Serenity, Peace, and Joy to you and Yours.

December 29, 2004
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Welcome back 🙂
How was your holiday?

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