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TABOO ON THE RISE
April 11, 2007
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Taboo on the rise. Last night I went to the Muse concert. What a show!! I have seen them twice before and they get better every time. Anyway, I'm in the bar area before the concert having some...okay..alot of drinks with my friends. So there we are, 10 of us drinking the night away having a good ole time. šŸ™‚

I feel someone grab my sides and give me a kiss on my neck, I turn around and theres one of my new employees! Yikes! Not again! Shes a very beautiful girl and very nice. I can tell she has a crush on me and the truth I kind of like her too, she has an awesome personality and a very nice smile. We have a casual talk and were flirting back and forth (again, not permitted in my line of work) As shes leaving to find her seat she tells me she wants to hang out and go out sometime. I didn't give her an answere and told her to enjoy the show and I'd see her tomorrow at work.

I'm sombering up now and I'm thinking about her. This could be bad. I could get in trouble at work, things could go south with my promotion the way they did when I was secretly seeing my ex. What to do, what to do. šŸ™‚

April 11, 2007
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If its wrong and you know it dont do it. there are lots of pretty faces and beautiful smiles, just get the right one.

your job or her !!!!

April 11, 2007
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wow what a dilemma. Maybe if you decide that you do want to pursue this and she is very new then perhaps she is the one that could find a job elsewhere. I don't know. The problem with dating people at work is, that if it ends badly then you have to deal with that person on a regular basis and then it can get uncomfortable. Also makes it uncomfortable for others if a romance is going on between two people and then they break up. Or if you are really good at hiding things then go for it. I guess what I would say don't read too much into what happened. There are plenty of fish in the sea. Now i will respond to your other thread that i noticed.

April 11, 2007
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I think you need to make a decision now before any more chemistry kicks in. Work romantic relationships. That's already a red flag and it sounds like this might be replicating the past. Does your company have some kind of policy on this?

What do you value most? Work and a possible promotion or getting entangled with someone you don't even know yet, who you already admit could be the source of many problems?

Chemistry is not logic, and, for me, my mind is clearest about someone when I first meet them, those first impressions. What are those first impressions and gut feelings saying about this situation?

April 11, 2007
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Thanks all! Yeah I was here before, same time last year (my ex) Last year I was in love with my ex, but my life was miserable. I was constantly scared of getting caught, people at work knew it was happening but they couldn't prove it. In my line of work, perception is reality. I was overlooked for promotions and projects, I guess you can say I was seen as a loose cannon. As soon as my ex left, I was once again viewed as one of the best.

I can't go through that stress again, if this new gal wants anything to happend shes gonna have to quit. I'm not gonna hide around anymore. Not that I'm in love with her or anything like that, but I want to go places with her, I don't want us to have to hide in my house all day like I had to with my ex. It didn't make for a healthy relationship.

I want a real relationship, I want to be able to go out and not have to look over my shoulder to see if anyone we know is seeing us. No thanks! Not again! If she mentions anything at work today I'm just gonna tell her that nothing can happen as long as she works here, if she wants to quit or transfer thats another thing. Good right? šŸ™‚

April 11, 2007
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setting your boundaries, way to go Santino.....and yes, you are being careful for your precious heart and doing all the right things.

Keep up the good work, and yep, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

(((camer))))

April 11, 2007
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Thanks Camer, I'm trying! šŸ™‚

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