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sweating the small stuff
March 18, 2006
8:29 pm
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nic31
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Lately, I have been very upset at the little things people say. I work with people who say things in a demeaning way yet; they hide it in a joke. I was at the lunch table adn I was asking questions about burn out since I feel I am burned out. instead of getting responses, I received a comment from a lady stating i was too sensitive. She said she knew that the first day. It hurt my feelings because it was a put down and it was said in front of several other people. I was mad because I did not respond probably because I wanted to cry. Since then I get upset over almost everything that people say. I am trying to ignore it but, to no avail it still upsets me. I recog nize I have serious self-esteem issues which I am working on. Can anyone offer advice on how I should have handled the situation?

March 18, 2006
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Nic - If you think this woman belittled or degraded you, then you are entitled to your own anger and I would recommend you to talk to her and tell her that you do not like that kind of jokes.

Every individual is entitled to be treated with dignity and respect. If this right is violated, you have every right to talk to that person openly.

If this woman continues despite your diplomatic efforts to solve the problem, I would recommend you to speak honestly about that problem to your supervisor.

I've had similar problem at work with male co-worker who was very sarcastic and belittling of me in every thing I say. I was patient with him and tolerated his behavior for 3 weeks till I could not take it any more and talked to my agent and supervisor about it.

Now, I have forgiven that co-worker and I told my supervisor that I wish to keep it strictly business relationship with him.

Ever since I've made that decision, I have eliminated so much stress, anguish and anxiety as a result of this.

I highly recommend you to do the same with this woman. She might take advantage of you or perceive your tolerance as weakness.

The best to you!

~Ras~

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