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suspected husband was cheating in past but never knew the truth
October 16, 2006
9:06 pm
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luvnlife
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About a year ago my fiance, now husband, became distant all of a sudden. Before then I gained wieght and we had sexual issues(now resolved)that he was unhappy with. At that time there was a new gorgeous woman who worked with us. They worked the day shift and I worked the night. Well, because we were already having issues, I was afraid something might happen between them. Just a I feared rumors began to float around. People from all walks of life who didn't even know him well noticed things. Like him always being around her( the way he was when he first met me). One night I went through his phone and even found several calls made between the two of them. Him being the supervisor, claimed that they were only work related. She often had an excuse not to show up for work and that is what the phone calls were about, so he says. Meanwhile, at the home, I am continously being ignored and even told that we should break up but he wasn't sure why. He was not the only supervisor she could report to, but she only called him. Eventually I got fed up, cursed him out, and left. After that incident, he had a change of heart. He apologozed for the way he treated me, went to counseling, begged me to come back, and swore that his actions had nothing to do with her. He said that it would never happen again and that he was just scared. Four months later he married me. It has been a little over a year since this has happened and every now and thenthe memories bother me. He is good to me now and has been ever since he apologized. But I can't help but to wonder what happened. Sometimes at night I think about it and it haunts me. One coworker who is trustworthy told me that he loved me and not to believe the rumors. This co worker would not explain his behavior, but "assured" me it wasn't what I thought. But how do you explain the excessive phone calls (to and from) and all of these diffrent people saying the same things. How can I get through this? I don't want to bring up dead issues, but I feel as if I'll never really know the truth. What was that all about?

October 16, 2006
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I just found out that my husband of 15 years as been cheating on me for the last 16months. I wish I would of never found out. I think I would leave it in the past since everything seem to be going good.

October 16, 2006
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Is there a specific reason that you want to know? Are you afraid that he will repeat this in your marriage?

It might do you some good to talk this out with someone, to determine if it's even worth finding out. Sometimes discovering these things doesn't necessarily bring about a resolution. Especially if he's truly a changed man and has demonstrated that in his actions.

Do you really believe he's trustworthy? That is the crucial question. The one coworker you trust most seemed to think he is... what makes you still doubt?

Wagging tongues are not always steeped in truth. Some people love drama regardless of if it rings true or not. Do you believe these people would be able to provide concrete evidence that anything happened, outside of "Well, I heard it from a friend of a friend of a friend"?

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