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Surviving the Loss of a Love
May 19, 2004
11:10 am
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NOLAcy
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This warm little book with a soft blue cover is wonderful. I had seen several postings on this site that recommended the book. Last week my neighbor gave me the book. I read it in one night. It is an easy read (important at a time when keeping focused is very hard) and each page alternates between words of wisdom/solice and then lovely poems that touch the heart.

This is my second loss. My first was my partner of 6 years that was killed. That one was easy. This one is the end of a 6 year relationship with someone that "fell out of love" with me. This is the hard one.

This book has been great.

I think the question for all of us on this list is not why he/she left or what was/is wrong with me, or if only I had.... The real question is this: Why are we holding on so tightly to someone that doesn't love us the way we need to be loved?

My answers are; fear of loss, fear of intimate rejection, fear of being alone. The answers are all FEAR based - not love based. Something to think about.

May 19, 2004
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I have that book and it's helped me so much... Another book that is good is "When Bad Things Happen to Good People". This book really makes you appreciate your life....

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May 19, 2004
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i think fear has a huge toll on being codependent...afraid of the unknown..i know it was for me, and i try to challenge all of my fears to make me a stronger person, some days are just tougher than others though.

May 19, 2004
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I never been part of large family- it was just me and my mother. So- I guess- people that I intemate with I consider related to, and it feels like loosing part of me

May 19, 2004
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What is the name of the book?? I want to get a hold of a copy

May 19, 2004
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What a doofus I am. I am guessing the book is called suriving the loss of a love? D'oh.

May 26, 2004
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think the book you're looking for is called "how to survive the loss of a love".

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