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sunray's closure
October 14, 2004
6:53 am
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well we meet for dinner. i realize the best thing to do is let him think i'm a nut case that i made the gambling thing all up in my head. he's pathetic. i feel sorry for him he has got some real issues. for one he is a lair. i could never in a million years evver trust him.he has put me thru hell. he is very controlling and dominate. he used to tell me he should have been an actor . when needed he can play the part so well . which used to trouble me as i though when is he acting on me when i look back many times . once i drove down for hte weekend and i got down before him. all my things were thrown in the bottom of the closet.the sheets were dirty.i was crazy when he got there he said i was crazy and to get my things and get out with his reaction i did just that we evenually made up me being the nut case . i have learnt one thing from that trust your gut feeling. i did not go there looking for anything it was there in my face and he though he would have enough time to clean things upbefore i got there. i see the counselor tonite. and i can't wait he has screwed my head up real bad. you know i feel sorry for him he will never have a normal relationship he denies to himself that anything is wrong i just pitty the next girl i have lost respect for him. we are on talking terms if he needs me i'll be there depending what he needs . i still love the man when things were new and we did fun things like go to beach when the sun was just comming up to fish walk in the woods but that man is gone. this one is disgust me. i am beginning to wonder does he have multi personalities. have to get ready for work like now!!!

October 14, 2004
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sunray, i'm new, but i can completely understand how you are feeling. I was married to a gambler for nine (8 in which i knew about it), be careful of promises, i've fallen for many. they are very good pathological liars, and if you don't listen very well (which we don't want to) you can fall for it all. don't "bail him out" i owned a house when i married him which i can't afford anymore, refinancing now so i can keep it til my kids graduate, can't afford to go out and buy a 3 bedroom cheaper. i am a month out of it it's sometimes easier and sometimes harder. i hope when the house is refinanced with out the surprises that keep falling on my head it will be easier. i still love him alot and am so angry!!!!! sorry this was supposed to be about your closure, good luck with that, they are smoothier than most be careful not to fall into something you don't want. every woman knows when its time i pray you don't take as much time as i did. ugh.

October 14, 2004
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SUNRAY, i am glad you found out what
a liar and how much denial he is in now....now its time for you to start a new path, and yes, you may love him, but he seems to love gambling more than you...I went with a gambler for 5 years, he HAD to gamble daily,
every day, and filed for bankruptcy at
one point (go figure)....you are so much better off without this man.
You deserve so much better, someone who loves you, respects you and is honest with you. Feel the pain you may
feel for losing HIM, it will help you
get stronger....and know that down the road things will be better and much less stressful.....hugs from camer

October 14, 2004
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thanks girls.... i needed that . i'm embarrased for him he thinks he is pulling the wool over my eyes . when i know the truth. so it's moving on time . i have a date fri nite. i am looking forward .i'm not ready for any relationship. but i need to be with some good company and take baby steps in that direction . i'm a survivor. thank god i'm going to be just fine. (going out) welcome to this site. there are some wonderful people out here. with incrediable advise . they all listen. you can rant and rave. they'll tell you it's healthy let it out. i am sorry for you . you said one thing that they are smoothier than most i can relate to that .please keep in touch let me know what your plans are . you came to a great place. i said that already. but it is true. cramer you have been great you are a unique

October 14, 2004
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hey sunray, i'm so happy for you, good for you, seeing the truth!!!
((((hugs)))
magga

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