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Stuck Between 2 Men!!!!!!!!!
May 25, 2005
1:27 pm
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Hi, I could never before have seen myself in this type of situation...I'm usually never getting ONE man ...nevermind 2!!!! Heres the story...I have been w/ my boyfriend Timmy for 2 years...we're soooo close but hes beenvery angry and obnoxious and mean lately...everything revolves around him...never once me. I love him though and I feelike i could never let him go...we have so much history and i feel so in love and happy when we get along and hes nice and hes his old self again...can he change? do u think hes just going thru something? I am confused...
A while back I met another guy named Nick. Hes gorgeous. Hes shy, funny, doesnt boss me around, likes me alot, wants to spend time w/ me etc. but im afraid that if I left tim for nick, then id want to go back to tim but he wouldnt want me anymore because of what I had done....I have been secretly seeing Nick behind Tims back when he is away at work etc. I have gone on a few dates but nothing has happened...am i cheating? am i making a mistake? please help me!!!!!!!!
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Love Pink

May 25, 2005
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Hi Pink,

Perhaps you could just be honest with Tim. Tell him you don't like the way he has been treating you lately and that you need some space to figure things out. Also, tell Nick the same thing. Explain to him that you and Tim have been having problems and perhaps you are jumping to quick in to the Nick thing. Then take some time to figure out what YOU want.

You don't need to make a decision RIGHT NOW. Just be honest with yourself and be honest with them.

It will all work out.

Good Luck

Lolli

May 25, 2005
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I agree be completely honest with both of these men. If Tim is not treating you well you need to tell him you won't stand for it. If he keeps it up he's not worth it and doesn't want to change. Men will treat you the way you let them. Stay away from men that don't treat you well no matter how much history you have. You need to honor and value yourself enough not to stand for mis-treatment from anyone.

May 25, 2005
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Honesty is the best policy. How lame does that sound? I know you don't want to hurt Timmy but you really need to be honest. If this was happening to you- you wouldn't like it. Karma dear. What goes around comes around. Before you are left with noone- be truthful to them and yourself. Correct me if I am wrong, but didn't you have a thread going about your boyfriend and the way he was treating you and his father not letting you and him be together? Has he made any progress since then? I guess not if you are seeing someone else....You are young....Live a little Don't settle for anyone that treats you less than perfect. Good luck pink....

May 25, 2005
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Pink, I also agree, honesty is always the best policy, even when it may sound harsh at the ned of the night the fact that you are being honest will keep you peacful, and no one can get hurt w/honesty, in the long run. I would also tell Tim how he has been making you feel, if he really loves you, he'll make changes w/in himself, if not eventually things will become clear. Wish you the best!

May 31, 2005
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I was in that type of situation. I was in love with two men. I snuck around for a year. It killed me, all the lies. It was unfair to both men and me. So I chose one. I left a great guy who always treated me like a queen for a married man. YUP..a married man. I dont know if it was the right decision. But at least I can live with honesty now. My ex is still in love with me after 3 months of being broken up. But I remain friends. Only the future can tell what will happen.

June 1, 2005
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Pink...it's been a few days...what's up?

June 1, 2005
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Pink, yes you're cheating. But, the basic thing I'm hearing is that you don't want to be alone. Isn't that cheating both men--staying with one because you don't want to end up without?

My advice is to tell you BF that you are tired of his abuse. Because that's what he's doing to you. Secondly, give yourself some time away from men altogether and get some perspective. Ask yourself why you want to date someone. It's not nice using someone because you don't want to be without.

Tell Nick that you like him and are interested but want to get to know him as friends. That way you can get to know him well before heading right into another intimate relaitonship... Sounds like you need a breather to me.

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