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Struggling with my life
July 24, 2009
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Hello supporters:

I need your advices. I have given a 30- notice to move out of my apartment for which will be in mid-August. I couldn't afford to keep my apartment. I am behind on my car payments. I want to move out, so I can catch up on my car payments. I think my car is important than my apartment.

I have a sweet cat that I will take with me. I might have to place her into the pet boarding services for a while. I have applied other jobs in the East Coast. My friend offered me to live with her as roommates. She referred me to apply a job at her employer. However, I haven't had an interview from them over one month. I have to go ahead and apply other jobs. I found some jobs that is a good match with my experience which is in New York, New York. I don't know anyone or getting a temporary place to live in New York.

I have to make a major change within three weeks from now. I cannot tolorate to stay with my current employer. They made me to work harder than other employees. I am working with seven bipolar women by myself. I have told my supervisor that we needed an extra staff member to split the work to give more attention to seven women. They seemed like they does not want to pay more money for an extra staff member.

I am feeling that I am close to feel burnt at my current employer. I am trying to change my job as soon as possible before something will happen to me.

I am having back pains and headaches. Have called out a day in one month. I tried to arrange a vacation, but they told me that I have to nofify within four weeks, plus have to find staff members covering my position (means for four staff members). I feel so unfair. I feel I am working so hard for them. I need a break.

I have applied a job through my friend's referral. They asked me to send the employment verification before my interview. I sent to my current HR manager. She accepted my employment verification. My supervisor got upset when he heard that I want to leave my job. I told him everything positive for good reasons. I do not want to burn a bridge with them. They seemed like they do not want to let me go. They might have been finding some excuses to make me staying with them. That is why my potential employer haven't give me an interview yet.

What should I do next?

July 24, 2009
3:49 pm
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hi Slient...didn't you have a job lined up from a few months back?? to the new place you are going to??

go with your gut on this one...times are tough, i think we all knwo that,
do what you think is right with your job.

Maybe talk more in depth with your current employer and let them know how you feel. More so with you being overworked etc..maybe they can divide the work up evenly.

((sending you hugs)))

July 24, 2009
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I want to mention one more thing that I left out about my life.

I took some painkillers for my back problems. It seems like it is affecting my moods. I stopped taking them for a few days, feeling a bit frustrated and stressed.

I decided to stay with Advil to stay on the safe side.

July 24, 2009
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I have talked with my supervisor last week. I expressed how I felt about my work. Other co-workers agreed that I have working so hard. My supervisor came to me and told me that I did a great job on end of my shift last week.

My supervisor told me that she will talk to another supervisor about this situation. I do not know what will happen until tomorrow when I show up for my work. If they wouldn't do anything about my situation.

What do I need to do next? I cannot stay being tolorated and stressed. I work 16 hours in two days. I need periodically sit down/break-time to catch up on my load of paperwork. I got behind on my paperwork last week and requested some help for supervising my patients. They sent me an extra staff to watch only half-hour.

July 24, 2009
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I will try my best to do well with my current job while looking for another job.

If I haven't found another job in August, then I will live as a beach bum (rent-free) with public showers to use, so I can use my rent money goes to my car payments and college debts. This way, I can get back on the track to have a source of money without bouching checks with my bank.

While living as a beach bum, I can save up money until when I can find another job lined up. I've lived in my car when I came to this state for a month. I found a place afterward. I can do that again. There are so many vacant places to live. I can do that after when I get straighted out with my car loan and college debt.

July 25, 2009
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Hello supporters:

Don't be afraid to give some feedback. I'd love to hear something from you. 🙂

I understand that we are on our weekend now. Feel free to advise about my thread.

Thanks!

July 29, 2009
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hi silent. i am so sympathy about ur life. i do now having the same problem as u too. i am struggling to get a new job after graduating from my college. so i do feel about u when u say that u r struggling on ur car loan and college debt. i just want to give u some of my ideas which i think may help u. how about if u not put too much afford to ur current job. so the supervisor will see u as a liability and will let u go..do u have any family members that will help u with the apartment debts or at least help u to give u a stay at his/her house??(sorry for my english)

July 31, 2009
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I am still struggling with my life.

I found out the news that I am not offered for a new job that I wanted to get in East Coast. They have filled this position by someone else. I gave the news to my friend who wanted me to be her roommate a while ago.

I have remaining two weeks left to end my apartment lease. I haven't found a temporary place yet. I asked a few friends in the area about staying at a temporary place. I haven't heard anything yet.

I could't sleep tonight. I feel so depressed that I had a big disppointment. I have realized that I have been through many rough bumps in my life.

I am having some thoughts to get my cat to a new home. Then, I could resign my current job to get my money. Going on a long roadtrip, then when my money goes out. I could end my life by taking my painkillers and muscle relaxers in the motel room (far from family relatives' home). Maybe going to Canada that my family couldn't get a way to get there to see me.

I am so tired of being nice and patient to everyone. I am a hardworking person and supported everything on my own. I am tired of carrying all of my weights everyday. I haven't had been married or have a child. I am getting old to be on a date. I feel like I shouldn't care anymore about my life. Why I am here on the earth for?

July 31, 2009
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slient, you need to get out of this funk!! start caring about you and your life and plans.

Why not come up with a few different options, plans A, b and C and see how that works.

I too, feel weird, selling my home, i have to be out by Sept 16th, back to my homestate, with NO job, hardly any money, and NO place to live as yet, alot of places won't take dogs and want a year long lease, which i don't want.

So i am coming up with my plans, a,b & c...and see what will happen.

Can you stay at a local hotel or motel for a few weeks, they will probably discount your rate, then check out apt's and what not...and keep pounding the pavement on finding a job.

Things will work out, it may take time, but things will fall into place, and don't let the crazy thoughts get the best of you!!

August 5, 2009
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Been off the threads for awhile - wow Camer big steps

BBlue

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