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Stopping the Cycle
September 24, 2003
3:33 pm
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Hello. I am a codependent from childhood. My mother was emotionally abusive. I was married to an overbearing alcoholic for 15 years. I found myself doing all the co-depedent actions of an alcoholic spouse. I went to counseling and read lots of self help books. After being divorced for several years, I started dating again and am in a relationship with a troubled man. He's had so many failed relationships and being the type of person I am, I thought we get along so great, it'll work. We broke up for a couple weeks and got back together. He has now had major life threatening health problems and I have stuck by him. Everyone asks me why?? I have moved in with him and have lived there with him and his kids for a couple of months now. I have major trust issues because of his past and his periodic contact with a couple of his ex's. I am troubled by my lack of trust and it makes me mad. I don't know how to just trust him and I'm at a loss. Somtimes I am very unhappy but then I think I don't want to end this relationship.

September 24, 2003
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Imats, your story sounds so familiar. I have been in so many bad relationships, it just gets to the point of telling anyone with this story to leave it, to get out. I'm sorry not to have much advice for you. Guess life just seems too short to be unhappy - no matter how much a person needs you. Guess we all need to be needed, we all need to feel we mattered to someone before we die. But, is it worth the sacrifice?

September 24, 2003
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artist 2, thanks for the response. I think that a lot...life is too short but I feel I can't leave now with his medical condition. I think part of my distrust and trying to find out that he's been doing something wrong would justify me to break it off.

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