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Still stuck in my story
January 28, 2013
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Do I follow my heart and go for a relationship with a woman because I feel a strong attraction towards her right from the start?Or do I wait a few months then make a move only to find out that she took that as a sign of rejection and moved on? Do I ask the hard quesitons right off the bat or when I feel like I'm ready to make a commitment? Once the hard questions are answered do I rely on the information as to what to expect down the road? Is it safe to base my decision about a woman on that? Please straighten me out if I am wrong but am I controlling if I expect for a women who is trying to work on a realtionship with me, to phone me once a day or at the very least to phone when she says she will? When I don't hear from her I take it to mean she doesn't care. When I call or text someone am I unreasonable for expecting them to pick up the phone or return the call or answer the text by the end of the day? If I'm working on a relationship with another kindred spirit is it an OK thing for her to be working on relationships with other people at the same time? Is that perfectly normal and again am I a controlling person if I even ask if such a thing is going on? Is it acceptable for women to be best friends with their ex husbands and go on a vacation with him while her new partner sits at home? Or should there be no expectations, no rules, just live in the moment?

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January 29, 2013
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Hard to understand this "relationship" with this woman you are talking about.  Only you can answer these questions that you are asking.  No one else can tell you what is right or wrong for you.  I think you need to figure out your life first, & then it will all work out because you will know what is acceptable to you as a human being when in a relationship of whatever nature with whomever.  Find your rules, & follow them.  No one can tell you what is right or wrong.  The one rule I try to adhere to is never to intentionally hurt myself or another person.  Not physically, emotionally, nor spiritually.

January 29, 2013
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Oh, I wasn't talking about my ex I already let that ship sail I was just thinking out loud because she is none of that.You speak of this thing about not intentionally hurting others  There are many people out there who behave on the level of an animal just using their insticts not even having the capacity to care enough about another human being to harm them, yet unintentionally harming them. When I tore this thing between my ex and I down to the studs so to speak she simply said that the only person she was thinking about was herself and what she needed to do to get a job, find a better place to stay and thought I was clearly out of line and controlling to have ever said anything about it and as a matter of fact I was the one who hurt her when I cut her off and walked away. Yes I am so stuck in my own story. 

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January 30, 2013
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I will tell you one thing thatb if someone loves you also then definitely she will wait for you if not life time then atleast some time. Other thing is if you are asking something and vice-versa because you both have to spend life together. Once you can adjust or fake it but you can not fake it life time. So look for someone is compatible and ready to understand you and at the same time she should also understand small things about you. else it is a watse.

January 30, 2013
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Hey I have to agree with you and I'm tired of wasting my time and tired of waiting for the right one.

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February 12, 2013
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Today is Feb. 12, 2012 and I am still  stuck in my story. Still carrying a torch for her.

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February 12, 2013
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I stay stuck because I still have feelings for her and keep thinking there is some hope when in reality this woman claims to be in a relationship with another man and tells me she is coming out to see me then keeps putting it off with her latest excuse that  she has a medical problem that needs attention besides that I know deep down inside that she would make a lousy partner in every way.I just can't for the life of me wrap my brain around the fact that I am fine with ignoring her but she has to go out of her way to look me up and start giving me grilling me about being interested in other women and them being interested in me. And the stupid conversations go no where with her bottom line telling me she needs me in her life to be her friend, to care about her yet I never hear from her why, why why?

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October 18, 2013
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You ask too many questions and you're too concern on so many things. Don't try to solve everything or complicate them more. Sometimes, things and matters will work out if we just let them be. I suggest you settle down with your last statement saying "no expectations, no rules, just live in the moment".

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