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Still new to this, but making progress..........
July 14, 2007
2:49 pm
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Lisa Ann
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Well, I'm not sure if you all remember my post from a couple of days ago, but I decided to stay home this weekend and not go with my boyfriend to help him get all moved out of his house. The reason I decided to stay is that I'm just not ready to be around all of his friends and family since we have been on and off in our relationship for the past month or so. Things are great between us now, but we are dealing with my recovery from alcoholism as well as co-dependency together. It's been wonderful, but I find that it's hard to try and explain this to others. They just do not understand alcoholism, let alone co-dependency. So, anyway, I did not feel the need to be around people that just don't understand what I'm going through right now. That doesn't mean that I won't ever be around them, of course I will. But, I'm new in recovery and I am choosing to wait.

Now, here's the issue. I was home alone last night and feeling lonely. But, it was my choice to be home. I started to feel a bit anxious, but no where near as anxious as I used to feel. In fact, I'm home alone today - he will be coming back tomorrow sometime. I'm doing just fine today, but I went with my sponsor to a meeting this morning and it was great. I'm planning on another one this evening too, so I'm keeping busy. That really seems to help.

I'm just kind of wondering how long it takes before I can feel comfortable with my life - alone at times and with my boyfriend/family, etc. It seems like I am always working on something, to keep me happy. I need to go to meetings, talk on-line, reading self-help books, etc. I don't mind doing it, but sometimes I get tired and just want to take a time out, but that is when I start feeling down.

Just looking for others who can relate to me. I love to hear your thoughts. Thanks to everyone for taking the time to read this post. I look forward to each and everyone's response.

July 14, 2007
3:13 pm
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Hmmm... i hear you. It is difficult because in the past when our minds were spinning we drank or did other 'extracurricular activities' (that would be drugs ahaha, and now that we are sober our medication has been taken away. It is very easy to swap one addiction for another, to keep ourselves so busy that we miss the point of getting sober: to realize and deal with those reasons we drank/used to begin with. In comes the 11th step-prayer and meditation. Time for ourselves is crucial, it is from within that all our answers await our own discovery. I have just found this to be true for me. I also have found that when my head is spinning the best thing to do is to help another alcoholic and write a gratitude list.

July 14, 2007
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Lisa Ann
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Thank you for your response. What exactly do you mean by help another alcoholic and write a gratitude list? I like the sound of it, but I'm just wondering if you could please give me an example.

Thanks!

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