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Steps to recovering from 10 yrs of child abuse by father
August 4, 2007
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Hi,

What are the steps to recovering. I just can't function as a woman/mom/wife/daughter sometimes. My whole life was a let down until I met my hubby and had my children. Well, I was in elementary school when it started and my dad was home more, because he just had a motorcycle accident and just retired from the military. Around 1993 is when it began and didn't end until June 2003. That's when I moved out. I asked for help when I was in elementary school and they shoved my head out the door and said I was lying. I kept quiet for my two other siblings and I did not know that he did the same thing to my sister (but she said it only happened once) I did it for my mom and even when she found out about it and he said he would never do it again it when on for 7 more years after that. I could put him away for life, but I won't do that, even though nobody did anything to help me, I won't put my mom out of her house. What should I do? Call a hotline? Make an appointment for family counseling?

August 4, 2007
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Fourcheeks-

Do you see a therapist on your own? I would do that before considering family counseling.

This is a lot to handle on your own.

-ella

August 4, 2007
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I am very sorry for what you went through with your father. I know how you feel having to live in secrecy and acting like all is well. I'd say the first step is doing exactly what you are doing, owning your experience and speaking about it and beginning to ask questions about how you heal. I'd suggest contacting a therapist as well as adult survivors of sexual abuse groups. There is a lot of information online.

As you heal your wounds, you will be able to decide what you will do in regard with your father. COncentrate on yourself for now. Read as much as you can on the effects of sexual abuse on children. A suspect that things and emotions you don't even know you are holding on to will come for a long while. So be patient with yourself, as your husband to support you in the best way he can.

Keep posting.

August 4, 2007
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