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Stay Gone
December 1, 2004
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starryslp
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I just wanted to express to everyone that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

I didn't start to heal from getting over my obbsession with my ex until I stopped contacting him.

It seems ( at least in my case) as long as he stays gone, and I stay gone from him, that I will be ok.

I am happy these days....I don't have any new love or anything, I am just happy I am feeling good about my life without him.

For all of you who feel there is no hope...there is!!!

Just wanted to share some optimism for today!!!

Thank to you all...You have all helped me be happy again!!!!!!!!

December 1, 2004
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starry

I know what your going thru and it is so hard to just let go. Not a day goes byt when I don't think of him and wonder if things could have been different. I guess there domes a time when that's all it is is thoughts. I know in my heart that my life would be different than it is today and I don't know if thats good or bad. It does get easier and with time you can move forward to better things. Give yourself some time, it will get better I promise.

~~fairy~~

December 1, 2004
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me - trying to be happy-in-pain
🙂 + 🙁 = added value = ?

December 1, 2004
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NO, I am happy.

I am happy I don't need him to make me happy!

December 1, 2004
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I'll get there, eventually. This isn't about him, so much as it's about me grieving in my own way, in my own time, and not allowing someone else to tell me how long, how, or how to feel at any given moment.

I felt empowered when I sent him that letter. I know that I can never be his friend, never. I know I can't be in a relationship with him because he doesn't want to change, and I know that if I had stayed with him, my life would be miserable and I would have ended up alone after having been dumped by him, and feeling rejected and used up and worthless. I got out after 3 1/2 years, and I consider myself lucky!

On to the healing. On to the detox! Tomorrow begins day 1....

December 1, 2004
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Cristine, your letter was great, and I think it encouraged a lot of people.

I promise you, I know no contact is hard in your situation, but it is so rewarding.

I am on day 26!!! I don't even want to call him. I had 1 moment of wanting to call, but besides that I feel good.

I think about you a lot.

Glad you seem to be ok. I hope you can start healing soon. You are such a smart women.

December 1, 2004
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I don't have an ex - what I been saying a random thought of mine about happiness and pain in my life - it's not about you starryslp - I understand what it is you said - and I believe you're happy just being who you are - enjoyed reading both of your postings !

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