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Starry from Ohio
December 20, 2004
8:13 am
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Just wanted to update everyone.

My flight out of Ohio yesterday got cancelled, so I am here until today.

Funny thing, ran into my ex last night...he was so glad I was still here, he had a christmas present for me, and he came up and talked.

It was a good talk. And, I was very strong. Didn't get emotional, even when he talked about his pregnant girlfriend, didn't act angry or sad...I was very good. Told him some things I needed to say, though he did most of the talking. I kind of felt like I was meant to have a cancelled flight to be able to have this talk.

Nothing was resolved, but it felt good to have some closure, and felt better to have him see me, be a strong, happy person. I also have lost a lot of weight since I last saw him and have a new hair do and stuff, and he noticed all that. Made me feel good!!

Thanks to all of you for your support, especially you Cactus....Your words really ran through my mind a lot this week.

So, off to Minnesota.....Happy Holidays to you all!!!

All my love, Starry

December 20, 2004
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Hi there, thanks for sharing your story. Since I went on this Web site yesterday afternoon, it's helped immensely, to know I'm not the only person who feels rather miserable about this stuff, and doesn't need to feel guilty or alone about how I feel. It sounds like you're on the right track, and I am keeping my fingers crossed. Here's the weird thing, I anticipate he anticipates we're going out for NYeve, however, I have plans to go out of town to see friends, and I'm afraid to tell him, isn't that crazy? Obviously, he's not invited. Two years ago he cancelled plans on NYeve day, to go out with the other woman he was dating. He confirmed what i had suspected a few months ago. When I asked him why he had done that two years ago, he said he felt guilty about cancelling on me, but more guilty not doing anything with her. Geez.

December 20, 2004
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I think it is good that you are not planning to spend time with him.

But, I think you need to tell him sooner than later, so it won't become even more of an issue.

Don't turn it into a long talk, and no need to explain why, just say you need to spend this time with your friends.....

I know you are new and don't know my whole story...it is long..and a lot like most everybody elses...but I can guarantee this site will help...and time away from him will help.

December 20, 2004
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have a safe trip Starry...glad you had some closure with the ex and you are doing ok...(((camer)))

December 20, 2004
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Hey Girl,
I am so, so very proud of you for having the courage to deal with the ex in a respectful manner (kept your dignity). You've definitely graduated to "adulthood" status. I like where you said he did most of the talking. Sometimes our silence speaks volumes and it evidently did this time. You may not believe there was much resolution to this talk but the fact that he now sees you as a strong/comfident person is resolution in and of itself. Today you are definitely my hero. Enjoy your holiday and I'll speak with you later.

-Cactus

December 20, 2004
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Im so proud of you too starry, this has been very hard on you especially in the beginning and look how far you've come now. So PROUD OF YOU.

December 20, 2004
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Starry,

I couldn't say it better than Cactus and Aces! Way to go! I don't think I would handle seeing my ex as well as you did...I'd be too pissed off! 🙂

big ((((((HUGS))))))

love,

art angel

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