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Stalker? You decide!
October 13, 2001
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lover2000
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Well, here I am again, in another bind with a crazy lady. Last week, I met this girl and we started dating. Things were okay at first, until she started talking about marriage. Me, being that I've got low self-esteem, I just wanted to be loved. Now, it's happening. She's dropping by my house unannounced, she keeps accusing me of lying. Last night she called at 3 AM. My brother's girlfriend told me telephone, I told them to tell her I was sleep and I'd call her in the morning because I had 2 work @ 6:30 AM. She told my brother to tell me "Get your a** on the phone now!" To which my brother replied "I'm hanging up you crazy bit**!" Who in the hell does she think she is? I amdefinitely breaking it off with her but my concern is my low self-esteem, why can I never seem to find any1 with class? Why do I attract all these deadbeats? Any suggestions would be most helpul.

October 13, 2001
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Lover when you leave one relationship you are going and choosing people who have traits in common with the one you left. For some reason these type of people give you security. Did someone hurt you in the past? Are you trying to recreate that person and change what happened? If so, then get some help find out and move on. You're gonna be alright my friend! You're gonna be alright!

October 13, 2001
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Lover2000,
Eddy is right we generally choose to repeat patterns of behavior until we get them worked through. I'm not saying you're "doomed" until you get help, but this is just human nature unfortunately. Recognizing this and possibly seeking out some short-term therapy might be helpful. Just watch out for those "possessive" types. It may seem to increase your self-esteem at 1st, but then could turn into a scary situation. Good Luck!

October 14, 2001
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Thanx every1 4 replying. I'm seeking help now. I have an appointment scheduled with a counselor for tomorrow morning. While I'm here, I need to state something else. Last night, I went out drinking and I got real sick. Never have I done this in my life. Alcohol just seems to make me feel better. I know I'm stupid for that but it seems like when I'm drunk, I'm the life of the party and people notice me. Why is that? I just can't avoid these patterns.

October 14, 2001
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Lover,
Congratulations for getting help. Trust me, many of us have done the whole alcohol-life of the party thing. To me it really depends upon how much you make a habit of this. 2 nights ago a good friend of mine and I went out and basically got trashed. Neither one of this do this on a daily or weekly or even monthly basis. I know I need to be careful because of my family history. I generally drink on w/e's but not during the week. Like many people, I can go days without it and then go on binges. Just be careful and good luck!

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