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ssconfused
April 15, 2007
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I'm new here but I am very confused. I don't love my husband short and sweet. I don't want a divorce but we don't connect on any level. Fairy dust anyone?

April 15, 2007
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I'd say some new dust needs to be sprinkled. You don't want a divorce so you need to fall back in love with your husband. YOu need to back on that connection level. Good communication might take you there.

April 15, 2007
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Hi ssconfused, Sounds like a very difficult situation. You say you don't love your husband but don't want a divorce. What would be your ideal situation if you could have it? X

April 15, 2007
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Well right now we are far from ideal. He WAS abusive no more but I still feel broken. We have said too much to each other at this point we don't like to be in each others company but it comes down to the kids and finances. Plus I married for life. In all honesty I don't even like the person he is. When I type this the answer seems clear but divorce will shatter our family. I feel selfish for wanting a new start.

April 15, 2007
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Ideal is feeling loved, cherished cared for. Sorry I didn't aswer your question!

April 15, 2007
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Why not try Marriage counseling? Many marriages after long time suffer so many issues. If you did not try couple cousenling, I would recommend you to do so.

April 15, 2007
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I totally empathise..Although I dont have children I can relate to "married for life". It took alot of determination and self respect for me to get out of my marriage. He was abusive emotionally and physically which made it so hard to go because he made me feel so worthless. That was 5yrs ago..I struggled for a long time but boy was it worth it. As for children being involved..I can only draw on my professional experience and say it's not the breakup of a marriage that affects the children involved but the way in which the breakup is handled. I hope you make chioces that are best for you and your children. x

April 15, 2007
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thank you guys for responding. It's so complicated but we have tried couseling numerous times. We have been married 20 year three kids all still in school. I don't remember I time I was happy in my marriage I guess I just don't have the strength to walk away. I'm terrified of the unknown.

April 15, 2007
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thank you guys for responding. It's so complicated but we have tried couseling numerous times. We have been married 20 year three kids all still in school. I don't remember I time I was happy in my marriage I guess I just don't have the strength to walk away. I'm terrified of the unknown.

April 15, 2007
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Is it even possible to creat love

April 15, 2007
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ssconfused, I don't know how much help it would be for you but I found reading a help. Ironicly my ex husband started me on this. A book called "Are you the one for me". It gives perspectives on many areas of relationships. My ex bought it for me to "show me that he was the one for me"...strange thing was it helped me see that he was so wrong for me! May be worth a read. X

April 15, 2007
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I'll get it today. thanks! I need to make some decisions. maybe this will help although I'm pretty sure he's NOT the one for me maybe confirmation is what i need.

April 15, 2007
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I really hope it helps. It's by "Barbara De Angelis". x

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