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October 23, 2001
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wallace
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Hey guys, is it unreasonable to expect a guy in a platonic relationship to share things like what plans they are making etc, as you would with a girlfriend. If they don't, is this because men don't tend to do that sort of thing or because he doesn't value the friendship? Any ideas?

October 23, 2001
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I'd expect him to share his plans if you had invited him, and he already had something going on. It wouldn't make sense for him to try and hide anything, as long as you're friends. Friends are who we guage ourselves by sometimes. So, if you invited him, and he already had plans, I'd expect him to share the details.

October 23, 2001
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WELL IF YOU WOULD CHECK OUT THE TOPIC INDEPENDENT....I THOUGHT THAT THE BROTHER WOULD SHARE IN MY HAPPINESS/GOALS,BUT IT DIDN'T ROLL THAT WAY. IF I COULD FIND SOME-ONE WHO WOULDN'T MIND SHARING THEIR GOALS WITH ME AND LIKE WISE I WOULD JUMP ON IT. HIT BACK!!!

October 23, 2001
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Thanks for the replies. Pill, I mean just volunteering info like thinking of buying a new car without you having to ask or before you find out from someone else. Am I being too much in his face?

October 23, 2001
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Oh, it sounds like your expectations and needs for the friendship are different. Like someone I tried being friends with couldn't do it because their feelings were different. Are you sure this is just platonic for you and not more than that?

October 24, 2001
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Pill, I admit that I do harbor more than platonic feelings for him but I am fighting it. I'm afraid of wrecking the friendship. I don't think he feels the same, eh? But I don't believe guys want to meet up with girls unless they are attracted to them. How can I stop myself wrecking it.

October 24, 2001
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Well, if it were me, I'd just tell him how you feel. Get it out once and for all. Likely he'll tell you if he feels the same or not. Then you'll know... and the struggle will be over.

October 24, 2001
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Thanks Pill, I'll have to pluck up the courage. I don't want to lose his friendship.

October 24, 2001
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I think guys and girls are so different here, we get into the micro details, go figure. there are different levels of friendships as well, some girlfriends, we connect and there is little left out, others, well, its just surface. Maybe you have given more, thus expect same in return, expectations, hmmmmmm gets us into trouble all the time. don't take it personal is my motto for the day, we tend to do that with everything, he most likely is just the way he is, and would be like that with anyone.

October 27, 2001
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Thanks Molly. I think I'll keep quiet & just accept that's the way he is & not take it personnaly. I guess I over-react sometimes & start over-analyzing situations & see things that are not there. I'm trying to step back more and not do that as it screws up my mind.

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