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So So mad at this Online Dating
July 22, 2007
3:22 am
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2BHAPPY
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I keep going back to online dating just to see what is there. I am never lucky with any of these men at all. Last week I ventured in to see what was available and I found this man who was just so and so..but I decided I am getting older and I cant be so picky..so I emailed him. We wrote back and forth and we seemed to have a lot in common..he asked that we speak on the phone so we had one 1 hour conversation and I thought we hit off. We had scheduled a date for Sunday but he did say he would call me during the week to confirm that. Well, today I decided to call him so that I could plan out my day for tomorrow....and guess what? He said something else came up and he would have to schedule it for during the week or perhaps next weekend. I was so upset over his lack of consideration by not calling me and letting me know. I had to call and find out. Anyway, I told him that I would leave it up to him to make the next call and if I didnt hear from him..it just meant he moved on to someone else. Was this too blunt to say to someone I havent met yet? I just like for a person to keep their word or at least tell you in advance that they cant make it..I am such a busy person and I do like to schedule my weekends otherwise I just work.

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July 22, 2007
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2BHAPPY:

I know folks that met online and their marriages worked, and I have met those that have had nothing but a disaster.

In fact, my daughter today married a guy she met online. It has been a total nightmare and I am afraid their problems are just beginning. He is fom overseas. To be short about this... she could be lookin at jail time and he would only be deported and could then change his name and do this again,.

We know nothing about him. Everything is "none of our business".

I agree that you must be cautious online and even a bit more assertive. No, I don't think you said anything wrong.

July 22, 2007
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Your first mistake was contacting someone who was "just so so". You NEED to be picky. THis is a person that you are inviting into your life.

And you had every right to feel annoyed that he did not keep to his word. He should have communicated with you instead of leaving you hanging. That was inconsiderate. Not a good start.

I do think it is possible to meet some decent guys on line. It just takes time and patience. Never settle though. Listen to your instincts. If someone just sounds "so so", then perhaps, you should keep looking.

I wish you the best.

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July 22, 2007
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I have met -- and MARRIED -- two (count 'em - 2!!) honest-to-gosh narcissist/sociopaths online. So, becareful. Internet dating provides a perfect scenario for these disordered/mentally ill people to "project" a false personna that will suck you right in.

- Ma Strong

July 22, 2007
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Hi 2B:

I was just reading "He's Just Not That Into You" again last night and one of Greg's points about guys is that if they don't do what they say they are going to, move on. Especially the phone calls. Its just an indication they aren't interested enough to follow thru. And its nothing to do with you- they are just showing their word mean s nothing. So NOT worth your precious time.

I've been doing the internet dating thing for over a year and a half- have gone out with about 22 guys- and I am still alone. There are plenty of men with "issues" on line, and we just have to be extremeley picky and wary of everything they say and do.

Admittedly I am pretty jaded and not optimistic that my efforts will have any results.

So, join the club.

SD

July 22, 2007
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Hello, everyone. I'm reading this thread and others that talk about online dating with a lot of attention. I haven't tried it or visited those sites. Overall, what people have posted about it on this forum tends to be negative, for reasons that you've given in this thread. It sure looks like a lot of fishing in a poorly stocked pond, with lots of throw-backs.

An old flame from grad school recently got in contact with me, however and we've taken up correspondence...and I'm constantly struck by how easy it is online for him and for me to hide things

July 22, 2007
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"a lot of fishing in a poorly stocked pond, with lots of throw-backs" - ha ha ha! This is exactly what it is!

July 22, 2007
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I agree. I've tried the online thing for a little over a year, on and off. Spent (or wasted) 4+ months on a guy who was "separated" but still totally emotionally attached to his STBX and wasn't emotionally available at all to me. Also dated several guys who never called after the second date, and one guy who moved WAY too fast. I only went out with the guy twice, and he bought a gift for my daughter, wanted to come over and cut my grass while I was out of town, called me every day while I was on vacation, and took his profile down right after our first date. When I politely told this guy that I didn't feel we had that much in common but that I enjoyed our two evenings together, he sent me a scathing email telling me that he was sure I had lots in common with my alcoholic ex husband and that he hoped I found another alcoholic that I had something in common with. Psycho!!!!

Anyway, I would be very, very careful out there. I've taken my profile down for good, and decided that meeting people in more natural settings is just better.

Just my two cents...

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