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So sad.
February 12, 2002
2:12 pm
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Greetings...I am new here but have suspected my codependency issues for years. My problem now that I am seeking advice on is I am having severe difficulty with "empty nest"issues. I have two wonderful boys that are gone now, the last one to college this fall. I am not snapping out of this. Does it have anything to do with my codependency issues??? I miss them terribly and worry about them constantly. All of my friends seem happy their children are finally gone. Any advice out there??? thanks so much. mpp

February 12, 2002
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In a way I guess it shows us how far out of balance our lives were !!!!!
I think there are lots of us, that feel the suffering of the empty nest, and if the marriage is out of whack, or the social life out of wack, or no employment or hobbies, we do sort of feel like a fish out of water. It took me forever to get used to how much to buy at the market and quit making supper for 4, instead of 2. Lots of left overs.
Do your self a big favor and don't let on with the kids, they will think your needy, a burdon, and that you are putting them on a guilt trip. Get busy, get out there, go back to school, get to the gym, take yoga. Yoga has helped me the most, keep my head clear, get the body back into flexability, and the comfort of friends. Hopefully your kids are still calling, mine are caught up in the epidemic, of thinking they are so grown up, they don't need mom. 24,22, the youngest is in her last year. I would feel worse than I do, but I know I am not alone. Remember that our children are like arrows, we aim them and then must let them go.
You will survive, trust me.

February 12, 2002
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PS, in your sadness, don't forget to celebrate the fact, that they did go to college, because the opposite, is that you can't get them off the couch, and don't know where they are till 2 am, ok, its the little things.

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