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So my x contacted me on mother's day
May 9, 2010
1:59 pm
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sexychoclady
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I am so pissed.About 2yrs ago my exboyfriend left a marriage that he claimed was very unhappy. He moved in with me left me after a month or two. i went to work and came home to a dear jane letter.

He moved in with his sisters daughter in Va.
saying i was too much. Ok, we stayed in touch (me still thinking we could get back together)I still had feelings for him.

Anyway Nov.09 was the last i heard from him.
I felt our conversation borderline disrepectful and i told him he didnt have to worry about me, ever again, an i met this.And had no contact and don't plan to.

Today i get a text from him. With area code where he and the wife lived.Saying happy mothers day.When he was in Va.difference area code.
This shit really pissed me off!! Its like he wanted to rubbed it in my face.

This almost messed up my day.I thought i was over him everything just came back angry feelings and thoughts.But i deleted the message and number. In the pass i would have got so pissed and responded in a negative manner..leave me alone sniff,sniff.What a loser!!!!

May 9, 2010
2:26 pm
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Wow! Sorry this happened to you. My ex-husband did the same thing to me 3 yrs ago. I went to work one day and he was gone when I got home, but he did not leave any note, he was just gone.

It's good you deleted the message and number and did not respond back.

Think of this: maybe he sent the same message to all the numbers in his phone and you got it because your number was still in his phone. This has happened to me sometimes.

I know it must have made you angry. I would be, too.

Hope the rest of your day goes well.

May 9, 2010
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Sorry this happened. Sometimes you just wonder how insensitive people can get.Good for you for not responding!!I'm sure he gets the message loud and clear!

May 11, 2010
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I can relate. My ex and I have been apart for a couple of months now. The last 3 mother's days he did not even say the words, "happy mother's day" to me because he said he wasn't my mother. Didn't acknowledge birtdays or christmas either, go figure.

But on Sunday I open up my facebook and he had sent me a virtual flower arrangement with the card saying, "Happy Mother's Day". I just ignored it and did not respond, but I just thought, wow the nerve of him. Was it some kind of sick joke he was playing with me? Not sure what he hoped to gain, but I stayed strong and did not contact him even to tell him off.

You did the right thing by not responding. I think that kind of message speaks louder and more clearly than anything you could try to say to him.

May 11, 2010
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Way to go curious! We can claim the victory,(another day no contact with these losers)thx for sharing ur story. I feel we get stronger,when we tell on ourself. That way we open ourselfs up to healing..Really i don't understand how not responding speaks louder. But it is ok. No time to go figure!

I am tired of hurting,starting over, being emotionally unstable and i know he is not worth it.Good lord!

I am so thankful for all the advice because until i can get to a coda meeting this is keeping me sane and stable.REALLY!!! Never knew my thinking was so twisted. I always thought i had good ideas..lol

May 11, 2010
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On holidays many people write a message such as "Happy Mothers Day" then select all numbers in the cell phone and send the message to everyone automatically. Sometimes a person forgets that their may be a person on the list they should not be contacting.

When I bought a new cell and changed my number I did that. I wrote a message informing everyone of my new number, pushed the select all button and this went to everyone stored in my phone. The next thing you know I get my friend calling me up asking me why I was sending text messages to her husband. The number was stored under her name for years and I guess since then she gave her phone to her husband and got a new one.

May 12, 2010
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@ Destinystar while what you see has some truth to it. That is not the case her, my x knew what he was doing when he sent it to me alone.There has been times when he sent a group message but not this time Since our last conversation where i understand he was borderline disrepectful, i have not spoken to him in six months, i was wondering why he kept my fricking number i don't have has..Dang!

May 12, 2010
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I'm wondering, is there a way to block his number or change yours? No reason he should have any access to you.

May 12, 2010
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Lani i don't know his number since i deleted it. And in the pass i have tried blocking his number with sprint cell service and was shocked to still get a text.. If history repeats it self i will hear from him again. Then i will change my number. So i will wait and hope no contact he will leave me alone. This is the firsttime i have ignored him.

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