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February 26, 2004
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I need some advice... I have struggled with weight all my life and ever since I can remember have heard comments such as "you are so beautiful, what a shame you carry weight" or "you have such a pretty face". I have a fiance and the other day we were talking about past relationships and I commented on one of his past girlfriends...I had seen a picture of her and wondered why my fiance had dated her because she wasn't a very nice person and wasn't attractive - but I wasn't questioning her looks but rather who she was as a person (she is currently been arrested and on bail until trial for killing her husband) of course my fiance didn't know this at the time he dated her, she said her husband had ran away). My fiance said in response - she wasn't bad looking, all my friends thought she was hot - I said to him that he was acting like a typical male who god forbid dated someone who wasn't that attractive would take it as a personal thing meaning he wasn't macho. I told him I wasn't talking about her looks - he made me angry and just to see what else he would say I said "quite frankly I am the most attractive girl you have dated because - well he didn't let me finish - he said "no your not" "i have dated girls way better looking than you". If he had let me finish then I would have said " I was the most attractive because inside I am a good person and have great respect for him" he has never had that before. Now I am devistated because the words keep going through my head and I was already insecure to begin with. You always want to believe the man your with beleives you are the best - How do I get over this?

February 26, 2004
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that was a hurtful thing that he said - & maybe he didn't realize how hurtful. He obviously is attracted to you on some level or he wouldn't be with you. In a backward way it's a compliment, if you look at what you were going to say...speaking of your Inward qualities that make a person far more attractive than looks alone!! If he always puts you down, tho, & makes you feel bad about yourself - that is a problem. Any guys out there: us ladies don't need the "lines" that we are more hot & beautiful than Brittany Spears (who is, but WHO would want to be??) But, to find a feature (or 2 or 3!) that you genuinly love about us & let us know...that's nice! Guess if we put ALL our self-worth into what others think of our appearance, that isn't healthy...but to FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF is healthy!! do the best in taking care of the inward & the outward & your self confidence will draw people to you. Smile!

March 4, 2004
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my fiance lied to me the last time we were going out. he said that he loved me but i later found out from his friends that he didn't. we've been back together now for 5 months and he said that he love's me but i told him that i didn't know wether or not to belive him cause he lied before so he then asked me to marry him to prove it but i still don't know if i should belive him or not. at times he is all over me and then there's times were he doesn't want to know me. i always give him his own way like if he wants to go bed i'll say ok then but if i want to go to bed he say's no and then he complains about it 10 minets later. what should i do?

March 4, 2004
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Well, I sure wouldn't agree to marry him if you have this much doubt...I mean, maybe that is a bad way to start off. But, just read alot of these other posts - they talk about us deserving to be treated respectfully & feeling strong about taking care of ourselves. I'm a little new here, so perhaps don't have the solid advice - but, just keep reading...it helps!!

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